My fiance and I plan to get married Feb. If we decide to elope- it will be on Feb 14. I want to have a small reception wedding, but he just wants it to be me and him. I've been married before but married in courthouse. This will be his 1st. Every time I ask him-like 1x /mnth- he changes his mind. either saying "elope" or "wedding". What should we do?
2006-10-15 02:25:54 · 21 answers · asked by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
makes it a little harder to decide too since he's active duty in usaf
2006-10-15 02:44:58 · update #1
First of all congratulations. To address you question, if you did not have a big wedding your first time and you want one now and you also have the money I would say have a big wedding. Tell him how you feel about it and how important it is to you. Sit down with him and go over what you want. Remind him once it's done you can't change it. Good Luck.
2006-10-15 02:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going back and forth from elope to wedding you should decided on a small wedding with close friends and relatives.
This will have an eloping feel but a wedding atmosphere. It will appease both the desire to have a wedding but not make a HUGE deal about it.
Talk to him about a very small wedding with a small reception. Could even be at a nice restaurant. I would suggest a BBQ at someones backyard if you live south. If not, a nice restaurant is just as good.
You do not have much time either so a huge wedding would be hard to pull off. Especially if you keep flipping back and forth. A big wedding at this point would most likely result in you two eloping because of the stress involved and you both may regret it in the end.
Good luck!
and remember, getting married is suppose to be FUN and EXCITING. Try and keep the stress levels down and do what YOU both want to do.
2006-10-15 09:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by FerymayGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First fo all - congratulations! Planning a wedding could be very enjoyable, but also stressful trying to combine 2 approaches and blend 2 different styles into one that would please both of you.
It might be stressful for him to think of other people looking at him making the promise or perhaps he is scared of the big crowd a-la "i dont know half of the people here". You, on the other hand, are experienced since you already had one.
Look at this in the long term; although wedding commitment and promise is really an intimate thing between you two, surely you would at least need witnesses and invite your parents / best friends to witness the important act of marriage. You can make a compromise of having the closest people present on the official part and then spend the rest of the day just the two of you. Good luck!
2006-10-15 09:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, why not try Vegas. They have some very nice chapels at some of the hotels on the main Strip.
That way you can have the best of both worlds whether you want to elope or have a wedding.
Either way, congratulations.
2006-10-15 09:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't into the big weddings, they do it to make their ladies happy. But if your going to have a small reception, what's the point of eloping? It isn't actually eloping if you have a reception. lol personally....and this is just my opinion...I don't like all the attention of a wedding.
2006-10-15 09:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the ceremony that makes you married. But it could be the ceremony that contributes to a hasty divorce.
If you really want the white wedding, then wear the dress to the courthouse. Or take a trip to Vegas, and get married in the dress in one of their hundreds of chapels. (Vegas isn't the ONLY town that has fast track wedding chapels.)
Me, I'd be campaigning for a really spectacular honeymoon instead. Say a couple of weeks in Bali. That is a much better way to spend all that money, in my opinion.
2006-10-15 09:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go elope and then come back and do the formal reception with all his family and friends. This way you'll have both. You'll have the intimate ceremony that you desire and the big family celebration of a more traditional wedding. Now stop arguing and start planning honey....you are running out of time!
Congrats!
2006-10-15 09:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does the fact that your proposed wedding date falls on a Wednesday determine whether or not you have a "wedding" ?
I say, get married on 2-14, and have a party over the weekend, to include family and friends
2006-10-15 09:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe compromise, elope... and after you return and tell everyone, have a little reception then... if you truely are eloping no one should know about it... or if everyone already knows about it...maybe your family will plan a "surprise" reception for you guys upon your return. Congrats!
2006-10-15 09:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go for the small wedding. Wouldnt you rather look back and be able to say at least you tried to have the wedding? Instead of wondering if you should have forever.
2006-10-15 09:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋