Hey everyone!
This is going to be two questions actually.
First one is "Is there anything wrong with talking to/dating a woman 3yrs older than me?" I am 22 and she is 25.
Second one is "She lives almost 3000 miles away in NV. We talk on the phone and internet whenever we get a chance. She is moving back sometime early next year but she would still be about 2hrs away at that time. I am just wondering if I should just let her go or should I just wait? We have lots in common and we agree with alot of life decisions that we both want."
If I wait should I tell her how I feel now or when she moves back?
2006-10-15 02:20:46 · 12 answers · asked by Geran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some more details I forgot.
She is currently with someone but is very unhappy/upset with it. He is leaving to go to the USAF and he wants her to go back home soon. I know I shouldn't be talking to her like that but right now we are talking as friends.
Also the other night I went over a friend's house to have a couple of drinks and she texted me. He told me I was doing everything wrong. Alittle background about this guy...he runs the website that me and her met on and he also runs www.friendzoned.com which is his dating site. He told me I wasn't be a challenge just for the fact that I answered her texts.
Sometimes I believe him but others I just think he is basing it off his own experiences.
About the things in common and life decisions. The common things are our love for the same car (which we both own), the music we both like and just the things you don't find with anyone. The life decisions are we neither want kids, want to live near the same things.
Any help is nice!
2006-10-15 07:02:15 · update #1
We have not met yet but she keeps wanting to come over here. She just hasn't because she can't get off work for long enough time to make it worthwhile.
2006-10-15 07:03:26 · update #2
Believe me babe three years in no sort of age difference to talk about even so it really should be the least of your concerns if you really love this person... the distance thing can be difficult but letting her go or taking a break will not solve the problem relationships are never always smooth sailing and true love demands a certain level of commitment & you both need to communicate to each other if you think the others' love is worth a little rough sailing if it is worth it then even if it doesn't work out at least you can say you both tried ,.... good luck sweetie!!!!
2006-10-15 02:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Blaque Inque 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, there is nothing wrong if you are 22 and she is 25. i have a male friend, he is 25 and im 34 but we both understand each other. second, there is nothing wrong too if for now you two discuss over fone and net, as long as you two communicate. my boyfriend and i live in two countries now with a 5 hour time difference. at the end of the day, what matters most is you two love each other dearly and willing to make adjustments. so before you worry about other things yet, look for the perfect time to tell her about what you feel. i dont know, if you ask me, i prefer that you say it face to face. meantime, just keep what you have now rolling, enjoy each moment. let it grow and follow its course. good luck
2006-10-15 09:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just something we make important in this life. If all the signs are there for a lasting relationship. what are you waiting for. Go for it especially if she is going to shorten the distance between the two you. So many of us are afraid of taking a chance. If you get burned, get up and try it again. I'm a firm believer in the principles of love, and I would go and do anything in the name of love, I'm a true romantic at heart. Follow what your mind tells you first, then lead with your heart.
2006-10-15 09:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noing wrong with the age thing. Ask her how she would feel about becoming a couple. Can you make an effort and move closer to her. It sounds like you have a lot in common
2006-10-15 09:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is No Real problem!
Distance is a Problem-If you both feel the same about each other-Then get what Needs to be said-SAID!
Don't loose Her because you didn't tell her how you feel!
Life's too Short to Let something good Go!
2006-10-15 09:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no prob with the age thing.
have u ever met her, dont think u r in love b4 u see each other. talkin on phone n internet is very different frm meetin and being in a relatiionship.
after ur 1st meeting goes well n u 2 like each other, NOTHING is a problem
2006-10-15 10:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by !i!i!i!FaRnAzA!i!i!i!i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the 2 of you get along & have feelings for each other, forget about the age or distance!!
Tell her NOW! You'll never know what will happen in the next minute, let alone tomorrow...
2006-10-15 09:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by JustME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with the age difference.There is nothing wrong with having a long distance relationship either.If you like her then keep seeing her.I would only be honest about my feelings if you know she really likes you too.Otherwise u might scare her off.Good luck
2006-10-15 09:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u believe in that relationship then i thnk u shud hold on to it, it does matter how far she lives away from u all that matters is ur love for eachother . as they say love conquers all. and i thnk u shud wait cus it might be a bit of a shock to her so wait till she comes back and then u can tell her ur true feelings
2006-10-15 09:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answers:
1. nothing wrong, but she should be emotionally satisfied for which age sometimes matters.
2. you can tell in the first meeting.
2006-10-15 09:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋