a guy that's a senior asked me out to a party with him and his friends house. i've liked him for a really long time. he just turned 17 the other day and i'm 14. he's really sweet, and kindof quiet. we started talking because he doesn't have his liscense yet and we both stand by the same spot everyday waiting for someone to pick us up.
i asked him why he doesn't have his liscense yet, and he says it's because he's been arrested twice. but only for little things, i promise.
so should i go to this party at him? do you think he'll try anything? because i actually want a relationship with him, i really like him.
2006-10-15 02:00:13 · 20 answers · asked by Julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think if you go alone to this party, there is the potential for him trying something. And some guys don't believe that no really means no.
Since he has an arrest record, he has already not heard the "no" message from the law. If you can't trust him to not break the law, then I would not trust him with your feelings and personal safety.
Bad boys are attractive to girls, as they always want to be the one to tame the bad boy. Bad boys usually seem nice on the surface, just "misunderstood" and that is awfully intriguing and mysterious. DON'T buy it.
2006-10-15 02:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. This is my future parential side talking.
No, don't even think about going anymore. You are fourteen you shouldn't be going to parties like that yet. Most likely there will be older guys and girls at this party.
By going to this party you are putting yourself in too much danger. There are situations that could and has happened to girls that go to these parties.
Plus, he has been arrested. I am begging you to not risk it. There will be other parties you can go to when you are that age yourself and a little more mature.
A fourteen year old among seventeen and eighteen year olds is a dangerous thing.
You have a crush but that is all. You are young yet and will have many other crushes. Think of your personal safety. Even if you trust this guy it is really not worth the potential risk.
2006-10-15 02:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Riza M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to know if he'll "try anything".
But that really isn't the question.
You want to know if you can trust him. Being arrested twice by the age of 17 is not exactly trustworthy.
If you are close to your parents -- then invite him over, and let them meet him. If not your parents, some other adult that you trust. See how respectful he is, see if you are comfortable with him in an open setting.
If that won't work in your situation, invite him to the movies with other friends. Group dates are great...they make everyone more comfortable.
You can feel intense feelings at 14, 24, 104! And you don't have to have sex to feel intense "like". You can, and should wait. The consequences of having sex at 14 are too much to risk. You have your whole life ahead of you to have sex.
Relationships are built on common interests. If you think he's kind, smart, and sweet, then get to know him on your terms. And don't be afraid to kiss him....it makes you feel great, and it brings people together. But make it clear that you aren't ready for more than that.
(Perhaps the party ISN'T the first place you want to go out with him. Teen parties with alcohol are fun, but things can easily get out of control. Get to know him first on your terms....lots of parties await you!)
2006-10-15 02:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I'm dating a girl that was a senior when i was a frosh and we've been together for like 9 months. Age doesn't really matter in the real world. But if you are together for a long time you just have to be prepared for him to leave for college if he's going to. You have to trust one another. p.s. I'm a junior now
2016-05-22 03:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible for a freshman girl to have a non sexual relationship with a senior. I did. But if he has done things in the past, and this is a big party, don't go. Something might happen that you might regret later. Besides, how well do you know this guy?
2006-10-15 02:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ayesha R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's anything like the seniors at my school...he'll probably try something :/
Maybe tell him that you'll go to the party, but make it casual. Come with a friend so you'll have a way out if the guy becomes a jerk or something.
2006-10-15 02:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to the party, but take a girlfriend with. Sounds suspicious. An almost 18 year old male chatting up a 14 year old female. Hmmm...
2006-10-15 02:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutly,sure! I say go fur it, what the hec,ya only live once and ya's are both under age so ya aint breakin the law.I was 18 when i had my 1st serious relationship,she was 16.When we met we were the same age as you's,i was a bit older.We had a son eventually and our own place.
2006-10-15 02:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's truly impossible for us to know his true motivations since we do not know him or how he acts around you but as far as it goes yes you can have a non sexual relationship at any age or any age gap ....it's a simple matter of choice and restraint ... if he pushes for more then your willing or ready to do you must stand firm and hope he respects your decision if he is truly interested in you for who you are he will respect that
2006-10-15 02:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by vicolstravnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible yes. Likely no. If you are going to be just friends no problem. But if your going to date really think about what this could mean.
2006-10-15 02:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋