IM really angry at my mum because she said she nearlly phoned the police?

Question

ive been in a rut latley with my low moods and depression, staying up all through the night, sleeping all day, my mum apparentley tried ringing me yesterday afternoon , but i was asleep in bed, and slept right through. she said she was really worried, and nearlly phoned the police to call to see me or she come visit herself..and im extremely ANGRY over this. im close to my mum and is the only one their for me in my life. but 8 years ago i commited a crime and went in a mental institution for 18 months and i vow never to return into the criminal justice system or go near the police. id rather be dead, i have very morbid memories of the past and im trying to forget it, and the fact my mum nearlly run g the police or rang them because she couldnt contact me has made me livid and really annoyed. i dont wanna have anything to do with the police or the criminal justice system anymore DAMMIT

I DONT WANT ANYBODYS SYMPATHY OR EMPATHY AS I WILL JUST VOMIT IT BACK AT THEM, I JUST WANT EMPOWERMENT TO BEAT MY ILLNESS NOTHING MORE. NOTHING

Answer 1

She knows your mental state and probably worried that you tried to end your life...give her a break...she was worried sick.... You'd best make up with her...you probably love your mom as she loves you...stop thinking the worst...she was just worried and let her know that if she doesn't hear from you for couple of days..then maybe start worrying...but not to send the cops...but to call the manager and let him check it out first...there is always a preventive way to work with things.

Answer 2

Dont be mean to your mum when she was just showing concern for your welfare Im sure she does not want you back in the criminal justice system either but would have no idea what else to do if you not answering the phone. You are at risk of these things happening when your mood is low and you isolate yourself your mum may worry that you are becoming so ill again that a crime may happen or you may be at risk to yourself. If you are having problems with your sleep pattern and mood then seek help from your doctor or psychiatrist the best way to be empowered and keep control over a mental illness is to be honest and spot minor relapses before they become big ones. The more you are honest with your doctor or nurse the easier it will be for you all to plan what to do if you relapse or have problems again. Mental health services are geared towards keeping people out of hospital and the criminal justice system and are certainly much better over the last few years with more community services, I bet you dont belive this if you have had bad dealings with the system in the past but I hope it helps.

Answer 3

Right - you are really angry at your mother.

Don't worry, I am offering neither sympathy nor empathy - I was thinking more of a good kick to the seat of learning!

Selfish is what you are being at the moment. Your mother is the only one who as always been there for you and when she contemplates an action from worry about your well-being you spit out your dummy.

If you don't want to cause her more worry then perhaps you should talk to her a little more so she knows you are OK. It is not beyond the bounds of possibility given your mental state that you could have harmed yourself and been in need of urgent attention.

OK - the thought of the police is abhorrent - so YOU think of someone else she could call to make sure you are OK.

I do know that depression is all consuming - my ex husband suffered from it, as does my son, but give a thought to your mother - she loves you and this is a very bad time for her as well for this very reason. The hardest thing in the world for a mother is to stand by and watch your child suffer and not be able to help.
Give her (and yourself) a break and seek some help to break this cycle

Answer 4

AS a mom of a depressed teen I can understand. Your mom more than likely knows your mood and knows your depresses. She was worried for your safety is all, She didn't want any harm to come to you. Talk to your mom about how you feel. You mentioned you both are close, so talking this out would help both of you understand each others feelings. AS for treatment or therapy it does seem you may need some extra help. If you don't want a Doctor try a minister or someone from your church. Even if you don't go to one if you called the youth ministry of a church they would be happy to talk with you. You just need to find someone you can trust and someone that's able to help you get past this.
I also wanted to say I think it's great that your asking this question. It's a good way to express yourself and possibly get some good advice

Answer 5

mothers do that when they are worried about their offspring calling the police may sound drastic but maybe she was desperate to see if u were OK or maybe she called because she felt u needed help sounds like u could us some help tho it sounds like u are not enjoying your life u do have control over your life and may be u do need some help talk to a professional like a doctor social worker mental health professional etc this way u can avoid any incarceration in the mental or criminal system sounds like your personal life is in a rut which can cause depression hang in there good luck

Answer 6

Explain how you feel about your encounter with the legal sysytem to her first; then sit down with her and write up a contract that tells her what to do when. Like a Living will.

1. If you can't reach me by telly you promise not to call the police no matter what the concern but rather wait for me to call you or come check on me personally or call upon a designated person who lives nearer;
2. I promise to keep in touch with you and call you and let you know that I am OK at least every (X) days or you have the right to be angry with me for not keeping my promise and ask me to pay for bus fare, gas money, whatever it costs to come check on me.

You can make it say whatever you both agree too so that it will be binding upon both of you. Her reaction was that of a concerned parent. Address her fears about your safety and she won't have a problem with any kind of agreement.

Answer 7

Your anger is very misplaced. Your Mother can't check on you personally, so her only option is the police. You admit that your mood has been very low and depressed. Assuming she knows your state-of-mind, not being able to reach you must be very scary for her.

It's great that you are trying to stay on the straight-and-narrow, but the police aren't the bad guys here...and neither is your Mom. It sounds like you need some therapy to work through your issues and your anger. I hope you'll get some help. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

You don't need to have the police involved. Your anger is out of line and you need the help of a mental health professional.
Some people attend sessions with their counselor with an attitude. You must cooperate with your counselor if you want to get anywhere. If you keep on like you are, you are going to be involved with the authorities.
Do not be angry at your mum. She is showing her concern.

Answer 9

You could have ex[lained it to your mom, because she cares about you . You just forget ecerything and live a normal life. Why r u thinking your past? We should not think about the past or future. Live the present life fully and enjoy it. Since u have your mom to care about you u can talk to her freely like u talk to us through yahoo. I or anyone can be the second or third person. but your mom is the one who can be the first one to think about you. If you are a believer put everything on God"s shoulder and just relax. He will take care of you. Your crime (as u have said) came out but many r living with it. U r not like them, U feel for it. U r a better person. If anyone don"t forgive you there is Lord Jesus ready to forgive and love you. Everyone has a wright to live and enjoy. Go out see the world as u r seeing it for the first time and enjoy.

Answer 10

sounds like your mum was really worried about your safety - it might make you feel threatened that she considered calling the police but it wasn't to 'shop' you - it seems that it was out of concern for your wellbeing. you sound very low at the moment and i wonder whether the illness that lead to your 18 month spell as a mental health inpatient is rearing it's head again? - i truly hope that you have good support from psychiatric services and urge you to discuss your feelings with them - preventing a crisis before it happens is less destructive to everyone involved (especially you). whatever happens i wish you the very best for the future. good luck xx