Plus we I have a child from a previous marriage and he has three, so we have to consider their feelings as well?? Just don't ever want to go through another divorce, but I feel such love for this man beyond what I have ever felt for another man before. How do I know if this will work??
2006-10-15 01:25:49 · 14 answers · asked by Christy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If its 1 month yall probably haven't even had your first tiffs yet. Don't rush into things. Seriously. U know how a divorce feels like. And when u're first falling in love alot of hormones are pumping and u can't think straight and stuff. Give it some time, maybe 1-2 years. Once yall know each other in and out, and love and understand each other deeper despite obstacles , then you can marry the guy.
2006-10-15 01:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about it this way...you really do care for him, you don't want to go through another divorce, and want to be with him forever...so what is the rush? you want to be together, so even without getting married, if the two of you are committed, then it will last...and you will be sure when the time does come.
As far as i am concerned...i think a month is definitely too early to get married, but there are exceptions to every theory...feelings in the beginning of the relationship can be very strong, and the need for companionship overbearing.
Give it time...enjoy the present, don't fret over the future..Get to know him more, and take it slow...You are not rushing anywhere, and i think from what you wrote, you are worried about making a rash decision...So take your time, and make this moment special. Once you are absolutely sure, it will happen, be it now, or further down the road.
2006-10-15 01:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't remarry till the kids are big. Stay as committed companions. I'm saying this coz I'll do the same. I have 2 young kids and going thr a separation.
Only time will tell you if this will work. Make a commitment to each other. You don't need a legal piece of paper to tell each other that you love one another.
Unfortunately, your main priority now is the kids. Coz once you have kids, their happiness and security has to come before your own. I'm not saying that you should not pursue your own happiness. Having this man by you is obviously giving you fulfilment and happiness in your life (I hope I can find someone to love and love me in return in the future). Sometimes remarrying may send your kids the signal that they come 2nd to your new husband. You want them to feel secure that you are a mum (he a dad) first.
2006-10-15 01:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by ikusburples 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats different for every couple only the two of you will know when that time is. Since you dont wanna get divorced again and you both have children I suggest you take it slow. Cause its not just your heart involved you have to think about the children also or they could make being married to each other a nightmare.
2006-10-15 01:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by d2347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tricky but the good thing here is that you have some experience in marriages. He also appears to have his own which, in my view, should help a lot in seeing that yours and his past mistakes are not repeated. I seem to feel that this should work and you need to give it a try. Life is all about trying what you don't know. If you are too afraid to try moving forward, your open option would be to go back to what you know, and that is a failed marriage and loneliness. Get married to this guy, at least you have found it in your heart to love him. I want to think he loves you too.
2006-10-15 01:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first 3 to 6 months of a relationship are the absolute best. Within the first few months of being with my bf I knew he was the only guy i'd ever be with. But you have to take things slow and easy. If you rush I you'll be rushed out. That's what I believe. You have to take time with it, and in the end it will all be worth it.
2006-10-15 02:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the newness wear off first. Wait for life to happen and see how well you work together. People change when "life " happens. Be patient if its meant to be then taking a little time will only help things.
2006-10-15 01:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by shugabam! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into anything too soon, you can be committed to each other without being married. I would wait for a year, if you still feel the same way about him, then go for it. What you're feeling now may be lust, you are afterall in the honeymoon period of your relationship. "Only fools rush in"
2006-10-15 01:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by kchick8080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! Live together, and see how it goes. I know the old fashioned say don't live together until you are married, but look how many of our parents were VERY unhappy, and only stayed married for ethical or moral reasons, B.S.! Get married when you KNOW it is right, period. :)
2006-10-15 01:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't know till it happens, but I would advise waiting at least a couple more months.
2006-10-15 01:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋