what is the appropriate age too give "the talk"?

Question

I have a 10 year old son and i was wondering what is the appropriate age to talk to him about the birds and the bees, and are there any books that can help me to do so, i worry i will scare him or scar him if i dont explain in the right way

Answer 1

Start talking to him...but you don't have to give him the ENTIRE low down...not necessary. But let him know the basics...you gotta start somewhere! and build from there as the years go on...and he will learn a lot of it on his own. Just be a good influence and Make sure he can always talk to you and come to you for anything.

Answer 2

Now is definitely the time... He propbably has heard alot by now..
Get some brochures from the public health about diseases that can be passed on... Sit him down and talk to him straight...Don't give too much information to him as you will only embarass and confuse him.... Tell him the basics and let him know when he wants to know more you will talk again.
Keep an open line with him, so that you are approachable...
Buy a pack of condoms , open one up and show him how it is used... Even if he is embarassed, at least you will know that he can protect himself.... Don't wait, do it now..... ...

Answer 3

My parents told me when I was 9,
I was by no means scarred! It all depends on what level
you explain it to him. Using big biological terms will confuse
and scare him. Explain it nicely but also add that it must only be talked about when appropriate. Be open. Unopeness will just
cause curiosity which can lead to other things!

Answer 4

Talk to him now. The media has taken all the guess work out of it. I think its more along the lines of explaining to them whats appropriate and whats not. I have two teenage boys and I didn't have to TELL them anything. I just had to explain and clarify things for them. Just use your gut and try to limit what they see on the TV.It is such an uphill battle these days for mothers who are trying to be accepting to what all our children see and then trying to teach morals. Good luck.

Answer 5

I dont think you need to talk to him about sex. Just ask him once in a while if theres any girls he likes or thinks is cute.

I think the answers you get then will let you know when , and lead directly to a quick talk when its needed.

I dont mean ask him about girls he likes once, but every few months :)

8th or 9th grade is probably when the talk is about due so its a ways off. before that it may just come off as wierd to him...

Answer 6

MY daughter is also 10. THey are starting to tell them the basics in school. Such as what your body might go through. I think 10 is a good age to start. Maybe don't tell them "everything" but do start

Answer 7

when he starts asking questions. You should lay the ground work to let him know that he can always come to you if he has any questions. The worse thing would be if you were embarassed to talk to him so make sure that you do not show that to him. good luck

Answer 8

now-a-days kids are growing up too fast.u'll never know what they know.watch him closely.what kind of shows does he watch on TV?u can go to a good book shop and check out books on sex education.u might find something useful..goodluck...

Answer 9

the best time is when he starts asking questions. go to your library or look on the web it should be helpful. I am doing my degree in child development and can help you out. let me research and u can get back to me. [e-mail]

Answer 10

OK, I'm going to give you all of my knowledge, but promise to wait until your son's 13th b-day before you give it to him, and of coarse personalize it to your experiences.......you might learn something yourself!

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