I don't like to tell people how I feel when it comes to love. I play it cool but I can't help noticing everyone seems to get further when they are a little bit easy going? Should I loosen up? I am afraid of looking desperate?
2006-10-15 01:08:51 · 13 answers · asked by Stoosha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO ! STAY THE WAY YOU ARE IF SOMEBODY REALLY LIKES YOU NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU PLAY HARD TO GET HE WILL STILL BE THERE TO PURSUE YOU, IF HE REALLY LIKES YOU!
2006-10-15 01:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you seem to be a very reserved person, I bet you are polite and respectful to others. When it comes to telling people how I feel, this is very hard for me also. I find that I don't want to sound stupid or say something that I am going to regret. I also play it cool and hard to get. You can be too hard to get, like I read in some of your other answers to this question, guys don't like to play games, and that is so true, just leave the b/s at home. As far as being to easy, that's also something that you want to avoid, because guys don't want someone who has "been around". I think somwhere in the middle would be good for you, but watch out for those cat and mouse games, try not to come on to strong, especially when you first meet a guy, you might scare him off, don't be to clingy, but call often enough so he knows you are interested, maybe once every couple days or something like that, than after you have been dating for a while maybe talk every day or everyother day. Ask him how his day is going and really listen, be interested, guys like a girl who is genuinely interested in him. The most important thing is be honest and straight up, if you are not interested in a guy do not lead him on! I find that the most important things with most guys is honesty, there is no reason to lie. Maybe you should loosen up a little bit, but not to the point where all the guys know you as being easy. Don't date more than one guy at a time, this is my opinion, because you may miss out on something real if you are trying to juggle more than one. I hope I helped with everything.
2006-10-15 09:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by alleybug_2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference to being easy going and desperate. Learn to relax a little and have fun... Don't hide away or act too cool. you might get perma-freeze....
People like to be able to interact with one another, that is what makes dating and getting to know a new person so much fun..
If you are uptight or unapproachable people will stay away from you, thinking you are a snob or think you are too good for them...
Use your own judgement with the people you want to warm up to, don't be afraid to have fun and please, relax a little, I am sure there is someone inside of you just waiting to jump out and surprise everyone.....
2006-10-15 08:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days people are too aloof and play too much hard to get.
If you don't want to play hard to get without coming out as a despo. then the best thing is to have standards in life.
for ex. I might be the most available or approachable guy, but I never go down on my standards. If I have some rules or creterias which girl must fulfil otherwise I'dn't date her...
one of my rule is like "No smoking".
Now I don't like smoking and I don't dispise those who do.. but I am not going to date any girl who smokes... Now I don't change this rule no matter how HOT girl is.. if she smokes, she can be my freind, but not more than that.
2006-10-15 08:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by direct2leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me there's nothing wrong playing hard to get especially when both your feeling and your pride is at stake.is just that you should have a limit to which you drive the car,because if u prolong it too unnecessary you might just lose one of the best moments of your life.we now live in an inpatient world,just be calm and let God lead you.cheers
2006-10-15 09:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by goodson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suppose it's the other way around?
he plays hard to get?
how does that make you feel?
Turn the table,fit the other shoe.
Do you behave reserved or like a *****?
reserved is OK
never turn in one of those bitches that snap over everything.
Mr right is gonna come knocking anyway.
don.t play,when u feel it's right then it's right.good luck!!!!!
2006-10-15 08:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at it as "playing" at anything. Be yourself - you will not be comfortable "loosening up" if that is not who you are. Find some one who likes you how you are.
2006-10-15 08:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have this same problem and worry about looking too easy.....i could easily now have like 4 guys all lined up wanting a chance but i dont take it.......so good luck and do what u feel is best!!!
2006-10-15 08:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Nikki*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and if your man adores you well you will get further because he will love you stand with you...be open and honest whether it gets you anywhere or not,at least you are true to you and everything around you..isnt that what matters
2006-10-15 08:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm but friendly, approachable but not hungry, fun but not
annoying are attractive traits to many men.
'Hard to get' is a game, and many dont appreciate it. It is infantile.
Men dont date babies.
2006-10-15 08:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋