From my childhood onwards i dont speak much to my dad b'coz he's very strict & i'm very much afraid of him. I dont have cell & my all other frnds have it so i gave my dad's cell no to them & told them to sms me on this no & one of my frnds named sachin smsed me & my dad read it & started hawling(solding) at me then after somedays everything was alright. Then as i love cooking then one day i thought of making cake for my dad I thought he'd love it but seeing that cake he threw it away & after that didnt allow me to do anything in the kitchen & now i've done onemore mistake i've scored less marks in exams & now i'm afraid what my dad will do to. Please tell me what should i do?
2006-10-15 00:05:37 · 13 answers · asked by nutan_nutty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do nothing. But stop hating your father, because, you cannot change such insensible persons. You find such people more on this earth.
You father lack common sense, he does not know anything about attitude. These type of behaviour is adopted by almost all persons on this earth, because they forget they are going to die and leave this earth, once and for all.
That is happened in my case too.
Both of my parents were senseless people (may call them educated brutes). They were selfish, self centered. In that way I lost my child hood.
Later adopted different psychology and I brought up my son giving all love and affection. I always treated my son as my friend. I was a dutiful father in his childhood days (though I punished him often, I did it only to bring him on track and I wanted to let him know - for mischief and wrong doings there will be punishment and at the same time, I made him to know that for good deeds and good behaviour, there is always a reward).
I always tried to understand the children's psychology and changed my behaviour and attitude, stage by stage.
When he has grown up, I treated him as my friend and till this time I remained a good friend and father to him.
We have to treat our children in a friendly way and remain good guides to them throughout.
Sorry about your situation.
A day will come, you will become independent and when you leave your father and his home to live separately and with independence.
Best of luck my dear.
Time is the solution, wait for that time.
2006-10-15 00:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that your dad might be going through something.if he is being so strict there must be a reason behind it. just dont worry i am sure he loves you to but doesnt know how to show it. get someone else some elder in your family to talk to him. has he been abusing you in any way then i think you need to talk to some adult.why did he throw away that cake. i mean my parents even enjoy the stuff i burn?i guess your dad is a little sexist in his views. he thinks that boys shouldnt cook and girls sshouldnt join the army!!well make him realise that you love him by showing your love in ways he likes. tell him honestly how u feel and how much marks you have got.the worst that can happen is that he will scold you and not let you do stuff for a while. use this time to study harder.dont stop doing what you enjoy just reduce it. if you enjoy cooking then i dont think your dad has any right to stop you. go ahead and tell him honestly if nothing more he will someday respect your courage and honesty.do get some adult in your family or friends to talk to him about how you feel.or do it in the presence of some adult.if he hits you then u should report him but first talk to him and try to mend the damage with love and connection.
2006-10-15 00:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Nutan,
It's really sad when a Parent behaves in this manner. What's your age? Where's your mom dear?
I think you need to sit down with your mom & talk it out dear. I think your father might be going through some big trouble in his business or in his personal life. Don't hate him dear. Have Patience & pray to God to give your family the strength to go through this difficult time with respect & dignity. Pray for your Father also.
Good Luck to you.
2006-10-15 00:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by Vibs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might be in +2 or 10Th if i am not wrong,1st thing is remove a fear from Ur mind,if u dint like any thing go any speak to Ur dad.he might be angry.dont reply back to him.like this u make an attempt to remove fear of ur dad.gradually he will also understand that u have grow up
2006-10-15 00:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by amithaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid... he is ur dad not a GOD.. he can only kill u ..
but dont worry be brave... speak to him... watching in his eyes.. thats it its over .. hitler rule is finished ... and u tell him that ui have alife and ur problem.. tell him that uare a child like otheres.
u tell him that u have som dreams.. and u want to live as u want...
dear i love my parenst and i know u tooo love and respect them.. i am not saying to dont respect them.. but if u have ever read an biological book.. u should know that by afraiding from anything , u are becoming sick.. dont afraid.. exams are only exams.. marks cant rule us.... we are brave , we have potential to do every thing we want.. be brave...good luck!!!!!!!
if something happen plz tell me ,. i am wd u
plz talk to me sometinme , if u like...
2006-10-15 00:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by styleguru_1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pal..dont be afraid..just tell him..and please ask him why is he always upset with you...am realy shocked that he threw that prety cute thing..nobody exept my mother has done smthin so cute for me..please go and talk to him..talk to him..please sharing your pain will only reduce it..i promise it will help you..please..and my dear start talking to your friends..friends arnt just for watching muvees and checkin out girlz..please share your problem with them..may be they can find a beter solution for ya problem..take care dude...
2006-10-15 00:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by garv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by utilising asking this question, you're actually not waiting. do not rush don't be apologetic approximately it, in simple terms wait. If he loves you, he will understand, if he needs just to get into your pants, he would be mad. do exactly even if makes you soft.
2016-11-23 12:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by yarrington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mend your ways, dear.I am glad your dad has not given you a cell phone.
2006-10-15 14:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Truth ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your father dont scare, show him how much you care for him and how much respect you have for him. dont be scared of the perents he equally cares for you and loves you its just a momentory friction, dont try to come to any conclusion have faith in the relations.
2006-10-15 00:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by raunak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what its like to live in constant fear of your parents and what they think of you, just hold your head up high and try to be yourself and not let it get to you so much. good luck
2006-10-15 00:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋