Guys ! I need help... My boyfriend and i were together for about 3 years.. with ups and downs .. But we really loved each other so much... He was a posessive guy... But i loved that about him... we now broke up as he had cheated on me.. then we got back n i broke up coz i was too scared to be hurt again... Do you think he regrets what he did? coz he keeps being nice to me.. not OVER NICE but just nice.. n each time we have eye contact its like some part of him still likes me..... What do you guys think.. I was his first love...... N he always told me he would never forget me or stop lovin me coz i was the first girl he was ever serious with... what do you think?? I reallY MISS HIM haha!!!
2006-10-14 23:18:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
once a cheat always a cheat
2006-10-14 23:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's true, once you truly love someone you can never ever stop completely loving them. The feelings can be hidden away inside, but forever and ever there will always be that little spark in you. So what he said is perfectly true, and well it seems like he's sorry, and of course he wants you back since he still loves you. But well people make mistakes and you either forgive the person, they learn from it, and you both move on, or you hated the person forever, they never get the chance to make things right, and your stuck with wondering "What if?".
Believe me there is no way he could ever move on so easily. I mean two almost three weeks after my girlfriend broke up with me because she felt that we aren't really doing much but being friends anyway, and besides she wanted the freedom of flirting with other guys, well after two to three weeks, a really nice, sweet, intelligent, and beautiful girl in my spanish class came up to me, and well I had known her before, we've talked, so she knew about my girlfriend back then, and also knew of my break up, so she was there for me. And well she asked me out, we were doing great for two weeks or so. Then she finally came to terms with herself and broke up with me, saying that she can't be with a guy as ugly as me, but I am very sweet and I'll find the right girl eventually, and that the only reason she went out with me, was to boost my confindence and spirit, in hopes that I would rise up from my depression, cheat on her, and really do find a girl that likes me the way I am. But since I stay faithful to one girl no matter what, that plan of hers didn't work out.
So well yeah basically give him another shot, I mean a real shot, not just a sympathy one of false hope. I know that through that whole experience I really missed and still loved my ex. So I know for a fact that even if he tried to move on, it's not the same. So follow your heart, you said you really miss him too, so well give it one last chance, and hoping it all turns out perfect.
2006-10-15 07:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he does feel bad about what he did to you. When that kind of thing happens its something that he probably didn't really want to do it just happens. It was his fault the relationship ended and he knows that. He probably feels that he cant ask you back because he knows he hurt you (which he regrets) and you can not trust him but he cares for you so he wants you in his life in some way. he is probably struggling with this more then you think. But if you can not trust him because of past wrongs do not try to get closer to him. Mske sure the boundries are set or you'll both get hurt again.
2006-10-15 06:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST guys r like little kids.they see a toy in the store,and they want it,they want it really bad.like he wanted you in the first place.and after he has that toy,he plays with it,it searches it,want's to know all about it,every inch,and after that,he gets bored.throws it away and goes back to the store for another one.so my point is that maybe you trusted to much in him in the firsty place and i don't blame you for that,cause girls tend to love for real and give everything.so u must ask yourself,why did he cheated me in the first place?cause he wanted something else.something u didn't have.remember.i said MOST GUYS.it means NOT ALL!.i'm sure he is a good guy and treats u nice now,but i'm sure that because it feels sory,he feels guilty.cause he can't place himself in his mind as a bad guy who made someone to suffer.on the other hand maybe he tries to move on but to make it more easier for you.but he is wrong.it will only give hope.if he cheated you means it DOESN'T LOVE YOU for real.he just cares for you,protects you,doesn't want to hurt your feelings.but that is all.so my advice is for you to try to move on,tell him he can go,let him free,and make him understand it's ok.if it is.i don't know if u can accept it.also u can test him: ask if he want just to be you close friend,to see the reaction. and next time be more mysterious,don't show everything,try his patience,like women used to do back in history.the boy had to wait for marriage to have sex.where is that now?until that they get to know each other and see if they are ment to be toghether.less suffering.u think they didn't want to have sex before marriage?of course.but they knew is better this way.of course u can't aply it today,but try not to show everything what's in the box.(socialy and sexualy).for example for me is more sexy to see a woman in miniskirt and bra then bare naked. before they were excited if they could see an ankle!!! i would do everything to live in those days.sorry for bad english.not local.:)) good luck in love. "if there is no love there is nothing" - Camil Petrescu-romanian writer
2006-10-15 07:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by eustache 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was never in love with you, otherwise he couldn't have cheated on you.
You are hanging onto the past because you are afraid of the future.
This stuff about the eye contact proving that he still has feelings for you.....alright, honey, let's just come out of la-la land one step at the time, you can do it.
2006-10-15 06:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. i don't know how old you are but i can tell you that we have all been in love at one point or another and also in my experience i have found that once a cheat always a cheat but its truly up to you and how you truly feel deep down, most ppl don't change and i would also like to say that there are plenty of fish in the sea of life and love!
2006-10-15 06:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does care about u still. However, don't forget he cheated on u and he might do it again. The rest is up to u.
2006-10-15 06:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by WORLD CLASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated once, he'll cheat again and you will just let him get away with it. But I am sure you will be happy with this possesive person because it seems you lack self esteem.
2006-10-15 06:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do love him but the trust is no longer exist anymore therefore don't dwell about it. Move on
2006-10-15 06:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes women. You're a woman. Sure he likes you. If you mean exclusively, that's a little more complicated...
2006-10-15 06:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋