I was at a friends engagement party (dinner for 24) last night and sat opposite a lovely guy. We chatted most of the night but in our group of 4/6 not just the two of us. He offered to walk me home to make sure i was safe in the evening and was a total gentleman. It was a lovely walk home laughing and joking no awkward silences. He did not hit on me or try to kiss me. We had been talking about music/films all night and he offered to burn me a dvd of some stuff. So I said excellent get my number of our mutual friend and when he dropped me off he gave me his business card and said its a bit formal but at least youll have my email. Hugged me goodbye and left.
1) When shall I e-mail and what shld i say?
2) Do you think he is interested in friendship or more?
Thank you :)
2006-10-14 23:06:35 · 32 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As shadow says, he is a gentleman and just wants to get to know you better and he has already made some first moves.
* he has walked you home
* given you his card
* arranged to make up a dvd for you
* walked you home
You need to reciprocate and show him a bit more of who you are and let things develop, emailing is a really good idea possibly so that he gets the email first thing Monday morning, that will probably set up his week !!!
Please DON'T play games waiting, hard to get etc, he's a nice intelligent thoughtful guy, he will see straight through them, believe me. The games could turn him on but they could also backfire he could see you as insecure, needy, aggressive, domineering and the list goes on!
But remember one step at a time, do not make too much of it just gently make the next move building your relationship. He will probably respond and try to take turns in taking the lead.
I assume that's what you would do in a developed relationship, surely that's what should happen in the dating phases.
Show a guy how you would be in a relationship and if he likes it all his barriers are removed believe me.
2006-10-14 23:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's not for sure if he's interested or not. From what you say it certainly seems he is, but that could be because you want it to be this way. But then again... no one's ever died because of giving it a try. So don't worry about formalities and don't leave too much time before you email him, because otherwise he may get the impression you're not interested. And as to what you'll write... hm! Look what exactly is in the dvd and say what you thought of it, adding some of your news. This will be open towards him, but won't embarass you if he's not interested. If he replies you'll know from his answer if you should push more or not. Make your move and then wait to see what he'll do too
2006-10-14 23:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by speedy eleni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email him now and thank him for walking you home, tell him it's been a wonderful night and you enjoyed conversation with him and so on...
He is definetely interested in you, there's no doubt coz if he's not he will not offer to walk you home, talked to you the whole time at the party till you get home. He wants to keep intouch with you coz he offered to burn a DVD, but just wait till he make the first move. He really is a gentleman and I think he's serious about you cos he respects you (by not kissing you or not taking advantage as its just the two of you). He wants to know you more by the look of it.
Find out more about him, get to know him well.
2006-10-14 23:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by -j4n3- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait at least over night - but not too long it's just playing games after that
He is definitely interested or he would have offered to leave the DVD with a friend for u to pick up
Go for it u obviously want to - and forget all of the games and how long you should wait whatever - do exactly what u want when u want and u will have no regrets only good times and good memories
2006-10-14 23:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 05:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email him perhaps tomorrow - leave a couple of days between meeting and emailing. But he's definitely interested, because when you weren't forthcoming with your phone number, he gave you the information you need to contact him. He clearly wants to initiate contact, and he seems interested in more than friendship - well done, you! Just say something like 'thanks very much for walking me home, I hope you're keeping well, can we perhaps meet for coffee when you've got that DVD ready, so I can pick it up?' Keep it lighthearted and simple, and best of luck!
2006-10-15 03:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Email in about one or two days or so. If u take a week he'll think ur not interested. Email too soon: desparate. Just b urselfplus friendly when emailing.
2) Us lot on answers dont know whether its just friends or 'more'. Don't rush into 'more' until there's signs he wants 'more' eg hintdropping etc. or u might loose him altogether and that'd be a shame.
Best advice: be urself, be natural, trust instincts but dont read too much into stuff.
hope i helped.
2006-10-15 00:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confused? because there are still some Gentlemen out there?
If you have a feel good factor about this person email this minute catch him off guard & then you will have two sides to him, he sounds great, I wish you well. Friendship is a valuable commodity to have so see how the land lies before jumping in with both feet.
2006-10-14 23:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email him straight away. say something like....thank u ever so much for last night being such a gentleman and walking me home. i really enjoyed ur company and i really look forward to seeing u again.
i can tell u wivout a shadow of a doubt that he`s attracted to u so don`t waste time in contacting him. i can tell by wot u`ve typed that ur stomach is doing cartwheels. great feeling isn`t it! mines doing the same at the moment too wiv someone i`m attracted to. go for it and don`t waste time :)
2006-10-15 01:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.email him saying "had a lovely evening talking with u, would u like to go for a coffee sometime?"
2. Said email will be replied saying either "That sounds brilliant, I'd love to", indicating he is interested or "Sorry, I'm not looking for anything at this time/I'm seeing someone" indicating that he isn't interested or is already taken, etc.
Either way, nothing will happen between you and him unless u email him. so, get on with it.
2006-10-15 01:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Knight-wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋