I have been seeing someone for a couple of weeks(not long I know). Recently I bumped into an old friend who I havn't seen for 10 yrs. Immediately all theose old feelings came rushing back, I couldn't help but find him attractive.A few days ago we shared a kiss, which has been playing on my mind 1. because it was so nice & 2. because of the guy I'm seeing. Anyway I have been flirting with the old friend and I suppose being a bit of a tease, but knowing that it was all a bad move and I'm not going to do that to the guy I'm seeing. I'm really sorry & I hope I havn't ruined my friendship! Do you think I have?
2006-10-14 22:28:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Considering I am the friend in question The answer would be a resounding no you have not ruined the friendship, and as for the flirting that is a two way door, I am just as responsible for that as you are, so in short I am still yer mate, a moment of madness cannot spoil a friendship that long(can it?).
x.
2006-10-14 22:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well that's why people say that sometimes it's better off to stay friends, if you made all those moves and now realize it meant nothing and you regret it, then yeah you aren't going to have the best friendship ever, because in his mind, he is thinking "finally after all this time she actually likes me, and I hope this could turn into a serious long term relationship" somewhere along those lines. So you boosted his confindence, and now you are going to burst it with telling him you never meant for any of that to happen. You ruined your friendship, but there's always a chance it could be saved, just be completely and totally honest with him about everything. That's the one and only way there is a chance it could not all be wrecked, it might take awhile for him to forgive you, but if you lay down the whole truth, he'll be able to deal with it all eventually, and well friends don't stay mad or broken apart forever. So well if you really want it to be ok, just don't give up and always hope for the best.
You did a horrible thing, but well hopefully he is understand and respects that you were honest with him about it all.
2006-10-15 07:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's necessarily wrong. However, I would like to point out that 10 years is a long time. Right now, you are probably caught up with the memory of what this person used to be like, but eventually, you will probably see that he has changed and is not the same guy you remember. Just think about it. Initially, things might seem like they're back to the good old days, but both of you have changed, and these changes are bound to show sooner or later.
2006-10-15 05:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by LibraT 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks? Well you barely know the guy so I wouldnt get all bent out of shape over it.
He might be kissing someone too! If you feel your new guy is someone you would like to be exclusive with and he feels the same....set down some guidelines or limits so you two dont hurt each other in the process of getting to know each other.
2006-10-15 05:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ruin your friendship with your old friend? Just set the records straight with him then. You guys are friends right? If he gets all huffy then he didn't really understand you as a friend.
Need to draw the line somewhere I guess.
Might as well do it now then later.
2006-10-15 05:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your mouth shut and cut off the relationship with your old friend. From this point on, be good. Don't do anything behind your boyfriends back, that you couldn't do in his face.
2006-10-15 05:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not ruined your friendship he might like you back but you've probably ruined your relationship with the guy you've been seeing for a couple weeks
2006-10-15 05:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you havent because a true friend would understand and trust you
and yes 10 years is a long time -- you have have both changed a lot -- its just nostalgia i think
2006-10-15 05:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I the allmighty Crazy Cletus forgives you
2006-10-15 05:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by Clayton B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, providing both you and the friend are aware that nothing more is on the cards.
2006-10-15 06:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Strange1am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋