I started a relationship with a taken man who lived with someone for 5 years and she was pregnant with there child. Initially I was in it for sex, about 5 months later, we fell in love. When I said I couldn't deal with him still living with her, he moved out and was staying with his mother. We had a great relationship, the best either of us had ever had. We talked about marriage, kids, our future together. I hung out with his family. He met mine, who lived in another state. We communicated, had fun, had great sex, and could sit and do nothing and have a great time. His son is 8 months old now. The baby mama will not allow him to see his son when he talks about me. So he doesn't. I found out 2 days ago that since he has been able to see his son in the last month he has also been sleeping with the baby mama. I talked to both of them about it and he admitted to it. I thought he really loved me. Now he is talking about getting back with herbut is still not sure. What happened?
2006-10-14 22:19:43 · 14 answers · asked by my name here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you really believe a man who leaves his girlfriend and his child for a fling with you is what you want....
Happiness can never be obtained at the cost of someone elses happiness and well being.
This guy is a smooth talking player. It's called lust baby, not love.
Move on and learn from your mistakes....
2006-10-14 22:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by easinclair 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
men will cheat on their girlfriends with anyone. And they have to see the baby's mama all the time anyways, so they're just taking what's right in front of them in some cases. In other cases, it's the connection they have with the kid and all. A kid is a huge thing to have in common with someone, and it makes for a lifelong intimate relationship, whether it's sexual or not. It's just that much easier for the sexual side to creep back into the picture. It's also always easier to sleep with someone you've slept with before than it is to find someone new.
2016-03-28 09:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you skank that is what you get for messing around with a taken man if he was doing it to her what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you hello wake up and that is his baby's momma he will always love her more then you no matter what you think that is the mother of his kids and have you ever thought that you met his family just so he wouldn't have to hear your mouth about meeting them he would do anything to make you think your special and blah blah blah but your not first off find a man without a already partner and without a past one who can be with you and only you , you should of known that he wasn't going to stop seeing his son which also meant going to see her and you think she doing do whatever it is that she had to do to charm him back and come on she is the baby's momma it doesn't take much so take my advice leave him alone he has already cheated on you so why would you want him back you think it is going to stop he will be seeing her for the rest of the child's life and even after so would you want to deal with this for that long is it worth it respect yourself and move on
2006-10-14 22:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very weird thing that can change a person personality. Especially kids. Alot of men change not because of a woman but for their kid. Come on why stay in such a mess up relationship which might screw your life.
2006-10-14 23:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u know what was the reason he cheated his baby's mama with you to begin with??
The child may make their relationship becomes better and bonded. I suggest you to leave it. If you decide to stay with him, you will have to deal with this issue as long as you are with him.
2006-10-14 22:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mochi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to be a ***** or anything, but that's what you get for sleeping with a "taken" man. When are women like you going to learn that if a guy can do it to the girl they're with, they're going to do it to you too?
2006-10-14 22:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Writer of Truth 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You deserve everything you get. I feel bad for YOU because YOU have to live with yourself every day... something this smart man and all other men so far have chosen not to do. Kudos to him! I hope SHE gets pregnant again!
2006-10-14 22:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He realized you had been a bad woman from the beginning.
That's what happened.
p.s. If you ever get married, I hope your husband will have an extra-marital affair so that you will know what you put this man's wife through.
Good Luck!
2006-10-14 22:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He wasn't yours to begin with. Either you weren't paying attention, or you just didn't care.
Generall speaking, men who go back and forth, lack of respect. They lack respect for themselves and for you. some have the mentality that they can have as many wives as he can handle.
2006-10-14 22:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids have a weird effect on people espically when its their own kids they have choices to make for. I hate to break it to you, but you may have just been a fling for him. The whole kid thing could have thrown him for a loop, but now he is realizing that he wants to be with his kid and provide for his family.
2006-10-14 22:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Don A 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋