I met him online and it was just supposed to be dinner to make me feel better because I got stood up. We ended up talking for 5 hrs and the longer we talked the more I couldnt stop looking into his eyes. He is 10yrs older than I am (IM 27 and hes 37) but we have the same desires for the future. (Living in Tennesee and having many children) we have alot of similarities and such for country music, good friends and cooking. We both appreciate the little thigns in life and he told him that he would marry me tomorrow. IM a little scared but also feel very complete. I know take it slow but should I be afraid and cautious or just go with the flow?? WE both are professionals. Also I have a 6 yr old child to consider. I just want opinions. I certainly dont plan on getting married anytime soon. I just dont know if I should date him exclusively or continue to date many people and wait it out instead of focusing on him and our relationship. Thank you for any suggestions :)
2006-10-14 22:08:31 · 9 answers · asked by nurserapunzel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I Meant to say he told me that he would marry me tomorrow. That he thinks IM too good of a woman to let go. I dont want to say Im falling for him but I may be. But he told me he has already fallen for me.
2006-10-14 22:51:18 · update #1
I would want to meet his family and see how he treats his relatives and how they treat him. While you might not marry the family, people don't wear masks in front of their families and you'd get a chance to see if he's honest or not in the least amount of time that way, not that you want to get married right away just so you can know the truth.
2006-10-14 22:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if this person makes you feel happy & complete, then you should continue to date this person. Why would you consider dating others if this person appears to be the one. I wouldn't recommend jeopardising what you may have. What would happen if this person reacted negatively towards you & hence any kind of relationship if he found out about you "playing the field"? How many perfect matches do you think people will have in their lifetime? As you said, you do have a 6 yr old child to consider. This child also needs a secure environment to grow up in. Not one with multiple strangers coming in & out through his/her life. Life is meant to be enjoyed. What happens if you let this one get away, & then you never find someone who will make you feel the way you feel with this person right now. Will you live with regret? Will you be happy in other relationships? People don't always wait around for others to make their mind up (or wait for them to choose the best from the market). If you truly love this person, you should have already made up your mind. If you don't then maybe should let him move on with his life. Only you can make this choice. All the best.
2006-10-14 22:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its great that the two of you hit it off, but remember YOU DO NOT KNOW HIM. Why is it this happens so many times with women who meet men on the internet? I know some people are lonely, but you still have to use common sense. Don't become exclusive with this man until you actually do know him MUCH better. It is easy to fall for someone who is on their best behaivor, as many of us are when we start seeing someone. I have established a six month rule. Until the end of six months, you don't really know a person well enough to make a long term commitment.
2006-10-14 22:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood this dating many people. I only date one person at a time. I think it is fair and healthy that way.
So why on earth would you want to date other people if you think this is the one?
Taking it slow will get you to the same end result just a hell of a lot slower.
Just my thoughts. :) Glad you've found a nice guy, good luck!
2006-10-14 22:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by johnpoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story reveals only one thing - briefly - that you need to mature before you dive deep into this whirlpool. Straight and frankly - you are craving more for the physical touch that faded from your life. Let it not empower you. And foremost: Never be scared of loving someone unless you believe it is a sin you are committing. Give yourself more time to observe and then conclude.
2006-10-14 22:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by nisar2211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all sounds good now but i think your in lust not love give it time babe. You don't want to move too soon and regret it later. trust me my last relationship went bust after starting off just like yours i too have a 5 year old child and he was greatly affected by the break up even started wetting the bed. my ex said no matter what happened between us he would always be there for my son and i believed him coz he was the best dad to him... he lied... please just take it slow
2006-10-14 22:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by omissy2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have hit it off mutually, then why not talk to him about pursuing the relationship.
No need to involve the kids right away. Get to know each other some more. It's a wise thing to do.
2006-10-14 22:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it a day at a time. Who know! He may be the one for you. Sure sounds like it. Well lots of luck. Date some Morrie and in time you will know. Also your child is the one that will also know.
2006-10-14 22:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two have got it going. Let your heart decide, and let time show you the way if you're not sure.
2006-10-14 22:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by boo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋