speak like that or should one react or talk to him in privacy that his atittude is unacceptable, because I feel very depressed when he speaks that way and if i dont telll him what i feel then i feel weak.
2006-10-14 21:54:52 · 20 answers · asked by asquith_6 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Do not take this from him , report him to someone higher , its abuse , sorry you are going through this crap , but you must do something about it , now.
2006-10-14 21:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by TRUEBRIT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that.
If you complain to 'Human Resources' you as a the accuser will have the burden of proof and as your in a subordinate position to him they will try to tear into to not to do this, only in very subtle ways. Still if you want to stand your ground you going to have to be very sneaky and resourceful, secretly recording conversations is a good idea or failing that playing you boss at his own game is a possibility. Failing all of the above, going on holiday and arranging your boss to have a nasty accident is always a good last ditch alternative. Just make sure he knows its from you though.
2006-10-15 00:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by jason12211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boss was like that with me for 2 years and when i had had enough i basically told him the things that he was doing wrong (within the business) that could get him into trouble with his boss and he left me alone then...
But in your case i would ask to speak to your bosses superior and tell him what is wrong and ask him to speak to your boss about it, if it continues, lodge a complaint against your boss.
I know how crap it makes you feel... Hope you get it sorted out :)
P.S. Don't confront him or make him look stupid in front of everyone because he could fire you for gross misconduct and that won't help you in getting a new job. It'll hurt you more than him.
2006-10-14 22:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. VERY quietly when no one can hear, just say "look Mr bloggs, my own Father never spoke to me the way you do, and I find it humilating especially when it is being noticed and commented on by other people. I would appreciate you affording me the same resepect as I give you. If you would like to discuss this any further, I would be happy to do so in front of Human resources, but I am sure you dont want it to come to that.
Now, shall we start again?
2006-10-14 22:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by puffy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope he isn't he's a old crabby thinks he;s all that and devoid of me the placement could fall down and that i prefer my strengthen..which will in no way take place as he';s to cheep' yet he could desire to do it and that i visit call for for a strengthen or i'm going to strike me and the different 10 workers lol
2016-10-16 05:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of whether his comments are valid, he has no right to speak to you about ANYTHING personal in public. Criticism must be polite, constructive, to help you improve or to give you a legitimate warning about bad conduct
anything else is wrong!! and you do have rights
Does your boss have someone above him in command? If not, a solicitor, advice agent or even employment office can help...
*tell them what is said, when and where..
*explain that this is stressfull and depressing, making you not want to face the man
*If you need time off to recover, take it.. dont make yourself ill over this.
*Stress causes heart attack and stroke.. your life or your job? no contest
*if you cant face it any more, its called CONSTRUCTVE DISMISSAL, and you are entitled to compensation (see the lawyer or employment office)
*your boss is answerable to the law.. he can be prosecuted for this
2006-10-14 22:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by miz Destiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him in private first and tell him how you feel when he does all this. He may not know what affect he is having on people, and you may be doing him a favour. If he is a bully then he may get worse. Keep a notebook of incidents and what is said. Take it to someone higher if you can.
2006-10-15 00:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law, you should have a line manager to whom you air your grievances. Check your Employment manual (and you must hve a manual by law) for who that is and if it is him and you want to complain about him then there should be a second person listed who is more senior. The problem is, if it is a small company and he is the only person ... then you need to go en masse and make your complaint so that no one person is singled out. Power in people! Bullies should be stamped on!
2006-10-14 22:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Druantia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest bringing the situation up to his boss or HR. If you talk to him in private you run the risk of him getting worse and denying the talk ever took place.
2006-10-14 22:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by apeystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he is your boss, he has no right to speak to you with disrespect. Have a quite word with him and if it doesn't work, say it in fron of everyone that he SHOULD not speak to you like that.
2006-10-14 22:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by damari_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always try making him feel embarrassed by his actions, especially if others in your workplace feel the same way. Make sure they are going to back you up on it if you are going to yell it over the top of everyone, because he can't fire all his staff if they agree.
2006-10-14 22:03:40 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Maul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋