Am I supposed to give up my properties including my land, car & jewellery to my Mother-in-law after the wedding ?? She says tht's the custom in TamilNadu...all of the girl's property belongs to them...and not to her. I don't want to give it up...my hubby says he can't take any sides. I feel totally alone in the house...and donno what to do. Can anyone tell me wht this custom is and tell me wht to do with this situation ??
2006-10-14 21:19:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I feel tht u r a foreigner and got married to an indian, or a girl from anyother state, surely not tamil. There is no such custom and u don't need to give up anything. Think practically, and do what is best for ur future, running after ur in laws for ur assets or to have an independent life. Tamilians r very emotional people do not fall into that trap dear. Be practical, that's what I can say.
2006-10-15 21:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As per law and custom you can keep your properties with you and your husband or in-laws have no right over it and they can not claim. It has become a chronic disease in South India and if you do not have money and properties they will demand or press you to bring it from your father's house. There are lot of dowry harassment cases going on and as a result of this the family courts are jammed with divorce cases. This is the mentality of the people here.
I myself fight a case in Chennai for a close relative.
If you are educated and earn your livelihood or you have sufficient money or parents to take case you can take similar action. But try to settle it amicably as for a lady the life will be lost and your husband can carry on marrying another lady and our society allows this. But never give the money or property till you are satisfied about their behavior.
Another important thing - If you are married recently and do not have any children, please do not try to have one till you feel you are safe and happy. I pray for your happy life.
NB: I have afterwards gone though your question on honeymoon. Take care.
2006-10-15 06:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no such custom in South India,they are telling lies.Girl can own any property or cash account without any one wanting to share.Not even husband or children !
I know the in-laws in India wants easy money and they will go to any extentn to grab the money or property.this is not only in south but also in the North.
Hold on to your wealth and property,take no threats,make a WILL and appoint Bank or Lawyer.
2006-10-15 09:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Shivaswamy H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probaly tell the mother-in-law-to-be, were I in this situation, that I was taught that families are supposed to share everything. I certainly wouldn't sign over anything to her, but I would offer to let her borrow things whenever she wanted (assuming she doesn't pick up a habit of not returning the items, or anything like that -- if so I would then call her greedy and stop loaning things to her.)
Good luck!
2006-10-15 06:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by KdS 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh my God. report Gagan Sawhney. I am both North and South Indian, and as far as I know, you don't have to give anything over to your mom-in-law. And your husband should support you. Was this a love or arranged marriage?
2006-10-15 09:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ayesha R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
India is more like 2 nations N India & S India. I am from N India they have different culture. In our culture nothing is like this. I really dont know about S Indian culture. I am sure they are liers & bastards they just want to have your money nothing is like this. Sister i think you should leave him & find some one eles.
2006-10-15 04:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gagan Sawhney 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey thats so sad on the part..
I'm sorry for you...
but they are talking of customs... youcan talk of the better ..
the laws.... and no law can deny you to have your property.. with you..
In fact, now YOU have a legal, RIGHT on a part of their prop. too. ... no wonder..
Taake care
All the best..
And do consult any GOOD legal advisor...
AND your Loved, nears and dears...
God Bless You.....
2006-10-15 04:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anurag 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
en ippadi?.....theres no such a custom,especially in s.india :-)
2006-10-15 04:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by psth 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋