Am I supposed to give up my properties including my land, car & jewellery to my Mother-in-law after the wedding ?? She says tht's the custom in TamilNadu...all of the girl's property belongs to them...and not to her. I don't want to give it up...my hubby says he can't take any sides. I feel totally alone in the house...and donno what to do. Can anyone tell me wht this custom is and tell me wht to do with this situation ??
2006-10-14 21:11:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Trust me honey...thr is no such custom. Ur MIL is a gold-digger, and wants to make some easy money. Ur instincts r correct..I know an Indian friend who gave their gold to their MIL and came to live with her husband in U.S...and she never got it back. Sooo...decide what is best for u and act. I feel it's better if u manage ur properties by urself. Ur husband is a typical mama's boy...but u can get him into ur side with love. Good luck.
2006-10-15 20:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might have been some customs ages back. But today the constitutional law protects you from handing over any of your things to your mother in law. Refusal may lead to boycott by family members . your husband appears to be a spineless man. He cannot protect you. The situation appears as if you are not safe in their house. They may even kill you to get all you possessions. The best way is to go to your parents explain the situation and lodge a complaint in the police as a safe guard against your life. Remember in India bride killing is a common act and even after enactment of the protection law many cases have come to light. If your parents are interested in your welfare they may help you otherwise they may not.
If you have sufficient education you can hope to work and survive alone if need be. But I advise you not to Take things lightly.
2006-10-14 22:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Brahmanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As per Indian Law...the property brought by a daughter in law as gifts/money/kind belongs to her as "Stri Dhan"...even her hubby cant touch that money...if the girl does not desire to part with it...
It is legally her property...But some people in the name of local custom do bad things.
Hinduism does not have any such custom...which is benefitting your MIL
2006-10-15 01:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by ۞Aum۞ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As in line with regulation and custom you may shop your homes with you and your husband or in-rules have no good over it and that they are able to no longer declare. It has develop right into a continual ailment in South India and in case you haven't any longer have been given funds and homes they're going to call for or press you to convey it out of your father's homestead. There are lot of dowry harassment circumstances occurring and as a consequence of this the relatives courts are jammed with divorce circumstances. that's the mentality of the persons right here. i myself combat a case in Chennai for a particular relative. in case you're knowledgeable and earn your livelihood or you have sufficient funds or dad and mom to take case you may take comparable action. yet attempt to settle it amicably as for a woman the existence would be misplaced and your husband can shop on marrying yet another woman and our society enables this. yet no longer in any respect supply the money or supplies until eventually you're chuffed approximately their habit. yet another important element - in case you're married those days and have no toddlers, please do no longer attempt to have one until eventually you experience you're secure and chuffed. I pray on your chuffed existence. NB: I even have afterwards long gone nevertheless your query on honeymoon. Take care.
2016-12-16 07:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by civil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b wise coz this relationship(with u r moterinlaw) is gona b really sensitive. in my opinion u must take advice from u r parents or u r elders instead of one 1 like me(stranger)
2006-10-14 21:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋