If one feels attracted particularly to the fair sex ,like her and want to take her out on a date then what are the best suggestions.
I like to know more from women.
2006-10-14 20:58:30 · 15 answers · asked by Maxood 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-10-14 21:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that Americans work so much that they're meeting their significant others on their jobs more often these days.
I suggest that you speak with her, ask about her interests, etc. and see if she shows any interest in you.
If so, take it SLOWLY* outside of work, as others here have said. A couple of weekend lunches for a set amount of time (example Noon to 2 pm) is a nonthreatening way to take it to the next level.
That way, if either of you feels at any point that you don't want to go further, you've made a friendly acquaintance and can go about your work without a loss of face.
If you do like each other, you can go from there. There should be some agreement from the beginning that, regardless of what happens between you, you will always be cordial to each other at work.
*Taking it SLOWLY has the advantage of giving you time to see if she is someone you REALLY connect with and like before you get too far down the road to intimacy. It's always important in new relationships to pay attention to anything about the other person that bothers us because the longer we know someone, the more their quirks will bother us in the end. I call this looking for DEALMAKERS and DEALBREAKERS--that is, things that we must have in a relationship, like respect, and things that must be absent in a relationship, like racism, sexism, disrespect, etc.
2006-10-14 21:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Are you kidding? I only attract nut cases and whack-jobs. My last girlfriend got so mad at me that she drove by my house the day before a hurricane was supposed to hit and tossed out a rope with a hangman's noose tied into it and told me to use it in good health. I once dated a woman that chewed tobacco -- after we split up she spit a huge mouthful of tobacco into my face. My lunatic ex wife #3 jabbed her finger down her throat and puked on my head while I was at a bar a few months ago. This is the same sl*t that tossed bricks, lumber, potted plants, a live cat and a can of pepper spray (with the trigger held open with a rubber band) through my living room window (last year). Why me?
2016-03-28 09:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea of course. Forget about the issues it would create when you were dating. Think about how you would feel if this person broke your heart and you still had to see them everyday. If you insist you still shouldn't do anything at work except be nice and friendly. Start by asking her to lunch, not as a date just lunch, and see how that goes. If you enjoy yourselves ask her to have a drink after work.
2006-10-18 06:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a really good idea to date someone from work. I've seen too many couples break up and then the tension is soooo bad afterwards. People ALWAYS take sides, too...so there's even more problems that arise. I have yet to see a relationship that started at work really make it. I wish you luck...but again warn you to think this through again.
2006-10-14 21:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by schaianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. wait it out a couple of months to see were your feelings go. i say this cause its the work place. if its just an infatuation the feeling will pass. if you still feel like it then just ask her. but go with the understanding.....if it doesn't work out...it could get ugly at work. harsh feelings, unprofessional behaviours. you may think now that this will never happen. but your saying it during a time when you are consumed with the infatuation. people tend to change when their heart has been broken. over all....i say don't even go there. not with someone at the work place. highly unprofessional. i wouldn't do it. for me...out of self respect, good working environment, and respect for my fellow workers. not why I'm there....I'm there to do a job. I've been attracted to people i work with. but i never do anything about it. once my ex started working at the same place. when it got ugly between us....both of our work suffered. he doesn't' work there anymore. but i seen our behaviours and its not a situation i recommend to anyone. in that situation though, we were already previously involved before he started working there.
2006-10-14 21:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever hear the expression "don't **** where you eat " ?? Well it basically means don't date or go to bed with anyone from the workplace. It almost always causes problems.
2006-10-14 21:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my advise don't date anyone at the workplace.
2006-10-14 21:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one rule at work:
"Don't get laid where you get paid"
It makes for lots of gossip and messy breakups.
I've seen this over and over in the large HMO I work in. Someone always ends up seeking employment elsewhere.
peace....
2006-10-14 21:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say it's a no-no to date somebody in your workplace...BUT if you must...
-make sure it doesn't compromise anything at work. (whatever happens may it be good OR bad)
-make sure to do your courting after-hours...try getting coffee, a drink, dinner, OR
just try and get her number and go from there... :)
2006-10-14 21:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by saiwue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say it is better not to date or people from your work.
If you must, have an understanding that you need to keep your personal life personal and your business life business.
2006-10-14 21:02:45 · answer #11 · answered by JB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋