The other night while on a date with a girl i have been seeing for a few weeks now my ex gf happened to come into the bar we were at. The two had never met before, as I saw no reason for them to. Me and my ex ended our relationship a year ago when I caught her cheating on me, but have had contact here and there over the phone mostly, nothing intimate. I introduced the two of them by first name but didnt tell my new love interest that she had actually met my ex girlfriend that night. I plan on telling her soon, but I didnt want her to feel like I had brought her there to make my ex jealous or anything like that. Should I have said something sooner? Do you think my new gf will be angry when she finds out I didnt tell her that the girl she met was my ex?
2006-10-14 20:32:13 · 14 answers · asked by Just your average guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont' think she really cares much. She might be curious as to whether you 2 have been intimate, if so, just tell her that she's your ex. and that you 2 are in OK term these days...
If your current gf is really upset about this and that, well, may be you should add her to your ex list. Since this is a free world, it doesn't belong to you nor your ex. So what you 2 bumped at each otehr at the club... does it mean can't go there anymore... if so, imagine when you 2 are married, you will see the can't do this or that...
However, to support your love for the current gf, tell her that you really love her and that no ex will ever get in the way. AND STICK WITH YOUR PROMISE.
One last thing, YOU THINK TOO MUCH!!! you are thinking for your current gf now... let her do the thinking herself and tell you what's important thing she is thinking about.. beside, your new gf might not even think too much of the incident...
2006-10-14 20:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by tdbhc33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN SKIPPY SHE'S GONNA BE MADDER THEN HELL!! I know I would be. You do know that now she's gonna have that little distrust w/ you and I would'nt tell her about the keeping in touch with the ex even if it is off and on. Why put more wood on the fire? I don't care what people say about honesty. You want to be lonely and depressed or have a fight suck up to her and be alright? I'd go for option #2 don't you think? I'm a women and I think you got to start putting on that chap stick tonight baby?(HA HA) Ask your self this: How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
2006-10-14 20:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by teena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could tell her the truth. And then tell her that you didn't think it was neccessary to tell her right away because the ex means nothing to you anymore as you had broken up a year ago.
If you plan on pursuing a longterm relationship with her, it's best to start off being honest with her. She'll know to trust you with her heart if you're open and honest with her. Take care, and good luck.
2006-10-14 20:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have anything to worry about if your ngf mentions anything about the women in the pub then tell her how you know her but only if she asks. if you see the ex again when you r with your new one tell her the truth if she asks why you didnt tell her earlier just say that it didnt occure to you to tell her because you have absolutely no feelings for the ex other than she is an aquaintance.
what ever you do dont lie just tell the truth if it comes up and you shouldnt have a prob.
2006-10-14 20:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by tash K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything about it! you then will become a suspect, her mind will start thinking at a 1000 words per second, and one of her conclusions will be he still has something going on with his ex.... thats why he didnt tell me. you see what i mean, so just dont tell her, if she finds out and ask, you look her boldly in the eyes and tell her that you did not know that she would be there and that was your 1st time seeing her since you broke up with her! you little pimp you! you sound a lil guilty as if you wanted them to meet.
2006-10-14 20:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how your girlfriend thinks and all of those type of things come into it... If i were you the best thing is to be honest. if you cant be honest then in my opinion the relationship wont last... tell her what you wrote, say that you didnt want to make her uncomfortable etc. thats what i would do. hope it helped :S.
2006-10-14 20:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No harm done. As long as Ur EX stays out of Ur current life, no need to even mention it. Unless she still calls or drop by at Ur place. Then U really need to be alarmed.
2006-10-14 20:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by daisy770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE MIGHT BE MAD BY THINKING THAT YOU DONT TRUST HER ENOUGH TO TELL HER THE TRUTH. ex. WHAT IF U GO TO THE RESTROOM OR TO THE CAR OR SOMETHING AND SHE COMES UP TO HER AND STARTS DRILLING HER HEAD WITH ALL SORTS OF LIES ABOUT YOU AND U RETURN JUST LONG ENOUGH TO SEE UR EX WALKING AWAY SMILING. AND NOW SHES MAD AS HELL AND SHE MIGHT NOT BELIEVE UR SIDE OF THE STORY BC U DIDN'T TRUST HER . PERSONALLY I WOULDN'T WANT NO ONE SMILING IN MY FACE TELLING ME A BUNCH OF LIES WHEN IT COULD OF BEEN PREVENTED BY YOU TELLING HER FROM THE START.
2006-10-14 20:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by krittlette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be upfront and say that you fealt weird about telling her, and tell her the truth. I think that since it was the ex's fault your relationship ended, you'll be fine.
2006-10-14 20:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by city_savvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your screwed...But then again, just fix her a cup of coffee and tell her. On second thought, fix her a cup of juice cause if she gets upset then she might throw the coffee at you and that would like hurt really really bad.
2006-10-14 20:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋