I went on a date today as well as tonight. He took me to the movies and dinner. The dinner was at Taco Bell. Which was disgusting. But, that is not the issue. After the move and dinner, we went to a Jewish Organization, and when we got there, he ditched me to talk to his friends. After an hour or so, he came up to me and said he had to go because he got into a fight or something. He asked me if I wanted a ride home I denied because I wanted to stay at the party. But, I'm angry because number one he took me to Taco Bell for our date, number two he ditched me at the party, number three he left me there because he got into a fist fight. My mom told me to never see him or talk to him again. I feel angry. I do not think I'll ever see him or speak to him again even if he apolizes. Do I have a right to feel angry? Or, I'm I being overly senstive about this situation? By the way, I'm 21 and he is 24.
2006-10-14 20:25:25 · 27 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow all this from a 24 year old??? I was thinking like 14-15!
uhm ... @ 24, he should've grown out of all of these habits (HYPOTHETICALLY)!
sweetie u sound like a sweet girl, and ur my age ... and we shouldn't have to deal with this bull past the 6th grade! u deserve better than taco bell and being ditched! for crying out loud taco bell??? SERIOUSLY???
get out now before its too late because i guarantee u that with the habits he has, he doesnt get many girlfriends ... which u and i both know leads to clingy, annoying and obsessive boyfriends.
If he honestly didnt have the means for more than taco bell, then thats one thing which can be very easily forgiven ... but if he did have the means for AT LEAST olive garden.. then he's a douche and the decision is up to u!
just keep in mind that if this is his first impression, it's only bound to get worse from here!
good luck hun
2006-10-15 17:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Gahhhhhh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're totally right. No point in being angry though. He doesn't deserve even that much from you because anger puts wrinkles on your face. Just forget the pathetic guy.
Yeah, on one hand you might say Taco Bell is all he can afford, but hello? He's 24, not 14. If that's all he can afford - sorry, he's doesn't have time for dating, he needs to make some money first. Well, that may be forgiveable. But ditching you at the party and all that that followed... That's not acceptable.
2006-10-15 03:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Taco Bell thing is not worth dumping a guy over. Guys think that's fine - let him know - politely that you don't like that, and suggest something different for next time.
Guys will always go to talk to their friends .... you just have to accept that. as much as we want them to focus on us, it's not in their nature. you could mention this to him, and in the future just try to have fun even when he does that. guys like when a girl can entertain herself - they don't find high-maintenance attractive. (I'm not saying that you are high maint. - I don't even know you!)
He did offer to give you a ride home, but you chose to stay at the party instead of continue the date. What would have happened if you had left with him? Maybe the evening could have been salvaged.
Perhaps you should give him a call, and go for a coffee or something. Laugh about it - I know that seems stupid, but it is better than letting it bother you - don't judge the future by one night.
Good Luck!
by the way, if you were so upset that he ditched you to hang with his friends, leaving you alone, then why did you choose to stay at the party when he offered to take you home?? You are sending him mixed messages. Just be straight with him. Tell him if you just wanted to stay at the party because you were hurt by actions, or p.o'd at his fist fight. (Also - does he have an anger issue?)
2006-10-15 03:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dinner at taco bell... hmmm well maybe he was short on cash or maybe he was expecting to have more than he did. He shouldnt have ditched you at the party, he more than likely would not have gotten into the fight if he hadnt ditched you, but he did offer you a ride home. I would tell him that you had a terrible time and tell him why, if he apologizes tell him that you will let him make it up too you, if the next date you are once again unhappy, end it there, tell him that you dont want to see him any more.
2006-10-15 03:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Don A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you have every right to be angry...Pardon me but thats ****** up what he did...Taco bell? ditching you, on your FIRST date? because of a fist fight? Ok, taco bell is not at all a nice restraunt to take your lady on a first date, he ditched you for one, that already is completly rude & selfish, & he not only ditched you but because of a fist fight? for being a 24 year old man he really should grow up & not be getting into fist fights..totally imature...so it all adds up..he's a punk & you deserve better...Leave the *** & find your self a real man!
2006-10-15 03:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Savanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't happy with the date, then don't see him again.
The dinner at Taco Bell, maybe that is all he could afford. It wasn't right of him to ditch you at the party but he did offer you a ride home.
2006-10-15 03:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) at least he took you to dinner, be greatful
2) if he was interested in you he would have been able to better balance the time with his friends.
3) did you not see him get into the fight, where were you??4) expect more from a guy than that
Last) dont harbor anger, forgive him, let it go and him as well.
so many others who would prolly show more attention to you on a date are out there. Never let anyone steal your joy!! Find the humor in him being the jack azz that ruined that chance to be involved with a princess that you are. dont waste you time with obvious idiots. laugh about it and move on.
2006-10-15 03:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you always have a right to feel anger that is an emotion and you cant help how you feel BUT if that happened to me i would have really been pissed he is truly showing how immature he is you are not bieng overly sensitive what a creep im sure that you will meet someone who will take you somewhere great and want to stay right by your side until then good luck sweetie and by the way listen to your mom dont see the jerk again just so you dont get hurt
2006-10-15 03:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by shasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to be angry, cause he ditched you.
But what's wrong with taco bell???
I think it's good, 2nd thought it's not every nice for a first date though.
2006-10-15 03:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by No Kitty Cat for you!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a lady of beauty and refinement. I would never expect a gentleman to take a class act such as yourself to a fast food joint as a dinner-date. Yes you certainly have a right to feel angry. Do the right thing, forget about this guy. He obviously was not thinking of you, but only of himself.
2006-10-15 03:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by Fun and Games 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋