2006-10-14 20:15:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's called parenting.. whether your kids are special needs or not, they demand all of your time.. relationships are very hard to maintain when there are kids involved. Your main responsibilities are the children.. the relationship will have to wait. Having it all, only exists in the movies. Try to get as much joy out it as possible.
2006-10-14 20:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the relationship you are talking about is your marriage, it will work out. You will both focus on what is most important to both of you, which is each other and your children.
If this is trying to develop a relationship that didn't exist before the children, the best thing you can do is put it on the back burner, or forget it until the children are a little older and don't demand quite as much of your time.
Timing is everything, there will be a time to do other things someday, be patient.
2006-10-14 20:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by M. K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a friend or family member who can give you an hour a week to be with the kids while you meet the hubby for dinner at KFC or something affordable.
You need some alone time together.
Check with you county to see if there are any special classes or day care oppertunities for the kids. You definatly need to take care of your self before you can take care of them.
God bless you all
2006-10-14 20:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think having an adult relationship is important. If you have an understanding partner that loves you and is patient, try putting the kids to bed at an early hour and have an hour or two with your partner to watch a movie together or just hang out.
You can also try having a date night at least once a week, even if its just for 30 mintues to get ice cream.
2006-10-14 23:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Snow White's Mother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make sure you have time for each other and probably the easiest start point is to try and get some support to look after your children. dependent on specific needs of the kids there should be an appropriate charity eg mencap, nas, who should be able to give you advice and support. also you should speak to social services and say you need support for a few hours a week. get friends and family to also help out. there is no quick answer but I hope you can find the support you need
2006-10-14 20:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by heli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered yr own question. I had a special needs baby, a husband and a dog. Guess which took up all my time? Tend to the kids, you are already grown.
2006-10-14 20:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in this situation, you will inevitably experience burnout being with your kids. Don't feel guilty about it, don't be angry about it....BUT, if you have a partner that is not willing to accept this part of your life and make accomodations to let you be the parent you need to be...you DO NOT need this person in your life
2006-10-14 20:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get some one in there least 1 night a week and make that night just for you and your spouse..
either get a family member or a registered nurse to come in and help ..
just 1 night a week can make the biggest difference for you both
2006-10-14 20:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Lisa♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can say only all the best and take care of yourself
arrange for part time full time helper will give a bit of releif
MAY GOD HELP YOU
2006-10-14 23:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't.
Get rid of the kids, concentrate on hubby.
2006-10-14 20:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋