I am an attractive young woman, im smart and independant. and i have been put back in the dating world, and am having the hardest time! guys NEVER approach me, and i have done what all my friends have told me to do....i smile alot, i present myself to be approachable and im naturally a fun person to be around...and for the life of me GUYS NEVER APPROACH ME!!! and the guys that do approach me are short, old and have no jobs.....are attractive, decent men really THAT shy???? whats the deal guys???
2006-10-14 19:44:09 · 17 answers · asked by nonyerbusiness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
long answer, but it hit's the points. most guys would probably tell you that guys are intimidated to approach you, but you said you make yourself naturally approachable. i don't think it's that. an attractive, young, smart, independent women doesn't make herself approachable, she make herself a challenge. don't make yourself "easy". attractive, decent men aren't shy, they want a girl that's a challenge.
now on what to do...first off, relax. it seems that you have yourself together, cus that would be the next thing to do (get your act together). next, just forget about trying to get a guy. do your own thing instead. guys will be checking you out, trust me. some will have the guts to come up to you. in time, better guys will approach you. it won't be the short, old men that have no jobs.
since you're only concered about men approaching you, i'll stop right there. hope this helps.
2006-10-14 20:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by battousai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, either you are SO HOT that they are too intimidated to approach you (except for losers with nothing else to lose) or you aren't quite as attractive as you believe. Try making the first move a few times and see if the attractive guys take the bait. If they don't, aim a bit lower.
Aloha
2006-10-15 02:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Genji_77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, if the men you are in contact with have known your ex and of your relationship, they may feel hesitant to ask you out.
Sometimes men sense urgency in a woman trying to reenter thte dating world, and are afraid to get involved. Calm, nonthreatening, and comfortable are traits that make Sandra Bullock attractive, not her basic beauty, vivaciousness, and chattiness.
And last, some men may judge women in the same way that you judge short men. Perhaps unfair to do so, but it happens.
2006-10-15 02:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a little bit of an attempt, I remember this one time at a clothing store that is seperated between men and women, this girl came over to the mens side and started to check out guys clothes next to me, sure I thought "wtf" but it led to a good convo plus some :D
2006-10-15 02:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Often times. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what the deal is but if i liked a girl id sure approach her
2006-10-15 04:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not approachable! Be on yahoo or some thing where they can approach you. I am approachable at raju1432 on yahoo!
2006-10-15 02:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking the initiative - ask out the guys who you like . . .
2006-10-15 02:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya unfortunantly most guys are shy. I would talk to a few guys you know, you don't have to know them well, then see what happens.
2006-10-15 02:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by stephenjlb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decent men can be shy. They can also be put off by conceited women.
2006-10-15 02:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may be intimidated by your looks.We fellas are sometimes nervouse around ladies that "we" think would never want anything to do with us.
2006-10-15 02:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋