When he text me, he'll say things like oohh this hooker gotta go, or shaving myself for another hooker, or i'm going for such a hooker to nite hmmmm.... I mean, WTF???? Why is he torturing me like that. He knew I still cared about him. But he just can't talk like a normal person and will get angry if confronted of his behaviour. I can't take this anymore. He knew I'm on meds and I told him I can't handle his mental torment.
2006-10-14 19:41:26 · 28 answers · asked by Nemrac666 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it depends on who broke up with who first, but somehow it sounds like you broke up with him....
He may be trying to torment you because he wants you to feel jealous that he would be with 'women' other than you. To be sure, is he just saying that there is a hooker to make you jealous? Or is he really sleeping with a hooker? There is a huge difference there.
He may be hurt or guilty by what he did and cant committ himself to a relationship or act normally because there is still alot of pain inside. He gets angry because cant release or get rid of this pain or even that he thinks that no one understands, so he switches to a 'self destrcution' mode and would prefer to just have a good time with an anonymous person. Also there is a huge difference in sleeping around and paying a hooker for sex. Sleeping around causes too much emotional baggage and i think both parties would be somewhat devastated or guilty, and paying a hooker for a one-night stand is just a strategy to have fun with no whatsoever emotional baggage.
He doesnt want to be told that his behaviour is unacceptable because he doesnt want to be told that he is wrong. Maybe its just a way for him to cope. People have many different ways to cope.
If your on meds, more than likely you would either have a counsellor/psychologist/psychiatrist or even just a local GP. Tell them abt your problems. If you dont, you could be asked to be referred to one by your GP. Its better to release than inflate the amount of negative emotions. He may not know why you take them thats why he may not take it into consideration. Dont entirely depend on the meds, its just to guide you to getting better. The more you depend on them by telling yourself that you NEED the meds to cope, the harder it is to get off them. We all need to develop strategies to cope by ourselves, and what comes out of that is maturity and wisdom.
2006-10-14 20:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by starry_night_swirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a good thing you are treating him as your ex. Imagine you married and found out his true self..
Anyway, to answer your question why? Well, he just wanted to let off some steam especially he doesn't have any girl friend yet.
Just tell him, what you tell us here: you still care for him and that whatever he's doing now is hurting you and make you feel bad. Tell him if he ever once love you in the past, please stop this now and also tell him that he's not a bad person just "piss off" now and that you understand.. And tell him when he does has a girl friend that you will be his "character reference" if his girl friend ever wanted one and that you will forget about this incident because you know he's hurting..
If he doesn't get the message, change your #, text message or block him completely.. If he bother you at work, tell your supervisor, or boss aobut it so they expected any surprises from him... Hope he's not a violent kind of guy
2006-10-14 19:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by tdbhc33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
text him back "I am so glad you have found a meaningful relationship with hookers, I can now move on knowing you are have. I will be changing my number to let you save your text money for your next date. c' ya"
he is a jerk. anyone can score hookers, how lame even if true. what a child.
you are so much better without that guy in your life.
there are plenty of good guys out there. honestly. dont be discouraged, we are not all pigs.
but whatever you do, dont let him think he's getting to you! do not ask him for space, do not ask to him to back off, as thats what he wants, a reaction that shows you are upset.
react like you really dont care, even if you do, and then you will have been the better half, and move on easier in that knowldge.
2006-10-14 19:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If reading their messages is getting you down, filter their messages straight to the trash so you don't even know they're arriving. If they track you down and ask why you aren't responding, explain directly: sorry, but receiving messages from you bums me out.
Be as simple and straightforward as possible. "I'm not comfortable with continuing to be in contact with you. Please don't (email/text/write/call/as appropriate) me anymore."
I chose the words 'I'm not comfortable' because they're both vague and you oriented. It's sort of a 'it's not you, it's me' thing, that these exes can read whatever they want into without you going into any reasons at all.
2006-10-14 19:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by blaquesazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nemrac666:
Keep a running log of the EXACT date and time of each call from him. If it is possible, record a few of them. Then get a Restraining Order against him in court. It's one thing for you to tell him to stop, but another when the Marshall knocks on his door and hands him a subpoena.
2006-10-14 19:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by Peedlepup 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he needs no longer something to do w/ her or the canine then i could say substitute the #'s on all telephones and in case you need to pay her for the canine then gain this. If she nevertheless tries combating via (on condition that she would not have the #) i could recommend getting a courtroom order saying she would be in a position to't come interior of various ft of the two of you! wish it helps! :)
2016-10-19 10:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds somewhat harmless to me. He is just being a dick and you are letting it get to you. He is obviously still hurt or pissed about the breakup and is acting out towards you in an effort to get revenge. You can either ignore him or act like it does not bother you. Time is the cure-all and this will pass.
2006-10-14 19:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to drive you mad because he is a small-minded, insecure d**kweed. Let it go and forget about him. You don't need a jerk like him in your life. Oh and if I were you, I'd change my phone number - he can only "torment" you if you let him get to you. There are far better guys out there and it sounds like you'd be better off with one of them instead. Hang in there.
2006-10-14 19:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing this to make you jealous. He still has feelings for you but he is a man and men never admit that they are in love. But he is in love with you he just is not gonna come straight out and tell you. This is all he can do.
2006-10-14 19:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dat Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk and by the way that is harrasment and u dont have to take it tell him to get a life and get over himself u can do so much better
2006-10-14 19:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by earthgoddess777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋