I'm a freshman in college, and there's this guy that I'm starting to fall for. I've been seeing or talking to him here and there most days since the year started. I'll eat lunch with him in the commons, see him at speech meetings, I've talked to him on the phone a few times, and I've talked to him on aim a few times, each time for a long time. He asked me out to dinner and I went with him. That went pretty well and afterwards I went to his apartment and listened to music, but then I told him I had to go home. I don't even know if that was a date though...and I don't know if he likes me as more than a friend. It seems like as time goes on and the more we talk, the more we become friends. I want more than that though. I always end up liking a guy, then I start to talk to him a lot, and then we become friends. We'll be friends for a really long time, and I'll just end up liking them more and more...I need to find a way to break this cycle. I don't have much experience with dating also.
2006-10-14 19:25:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be friends first to have a successful relationship. I just posted a question about my failed LDR because guess what?? He had me pegged as his girlfriend before he even saw me in person. So with that comes stress & expectations. Not long after I discovered I was "the girlfriend" we started getting into fights over not calling, not responding, etc. One time I tried to kiss a guy when we were friends and he was not having it. A couple of years later I called him up and was like I am on my way over. To date he still remembers that since it was the first night we slept together. Well guess what today we are still friends we give each other love advice and believe it or not still hook up every now and then. Our friendship is solid whether a romantic relationship endures or not. You break the cycle by telling yourself you are worth it, you deserve better, or that you will be happy. I also have decided to live a life without regrets so I ask guys out, I tell people I love them first, I make the first move, because I don't ever want to wonder what could have been.
2006-10-14 19:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by q8336b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is interested. I would say just let him know you are interested in being more than friends and see how he reacts. He will probably be quite relieved and ask you to a date based on what you described. However, if you really feel for him, make sure he knows you are not just looking to be "friends with benefits" before you hit the sheets.
Aloha
2006-10-15 02:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Genji_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he ask you to his place stay the night and see where it leads you. Even if you don't have sex you can always sleep with him without having sex try cuddling first.
2006-10-15 02:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself
Just play it safe
you don't want intimate relationship that goes fast
then either u have unwanted baby or STD..
2006-10-15 02:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by qwerty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a move, or move on. Quit torturing the poor guy.
2006-10-15 02:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel so he knows...... things will work out if ur meet to be together
2006-10-15 02:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as usual love and affection only.
2006-10-15 02:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seduce him at his apartment
he will be more than a friend
2006-10-15 02:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a little seduction, a little of this and a little of that... girl if you have it, use it!!! but be wise too.
2006-10-15 02:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by vernon shadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋