As a 15-yr old guy, I feel very girly in wanting this, but my sexual fantasy is to cuddle with a chubby girl, about this plump: (http://img212.imageshack.us/img212/3024/a006820xgmo3.jpg [worksafe, I'm not mean like that D:]), while listening to some light jazz and talking. Is there some genetic wrongity with me or something? Becuase it's like, every guy I've met is always checking out girls, "rating" them and being all "I'd hit that" and etc. I think this is wrong, but it seems to be the norm for guys these days. [worksafe, I'm not mean like that D:]), while listening to some light jazz and talking. Is there some genetic wrongity with me or something? Becuase it's like, every guy I've met is always checking out girls, "rating" them and being all "I'd hit that" and etc. I think this is wrong, but it seems to be the norm for guys these days.
2006-10-14 19:11:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's really sweet. I hope you get to fulfill your fantasy. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I've met guys who weren't so interested in sex when they were younger and most got more interested later. It can be a blessing because you'll have the skills to deal with a woman in a nonsexual way and when you decide you want sex, it won't be hard for you to find a partner.
2006-10-14 19:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your sexual fantasy is that specific and unusual, it's called a fetish. I'd look into your past to figure out what might have triggered it.
Do you remember the first time you felt aroused? Maybe you saw a chubby girl naked or touched yourself while watching the Facts of Life? Is your mother overweight? Is there any significance to the girl in the photo being Asian?
You need to understand what motivates you, because following these impulses will ultimately limit your choice and fulfillment. The same would be true for any other ritualized fantasy or fixation on a particular body type. If you do meet that chubby Asian girl, chances are very high that you will not treat her as an independent human being but will instead project your own fantasy personality onto her.
Based on the fact that it is easier to project onto a blank slate, I am inferring that it's important to you that the girl be demure and soft-spoken. What other kind of woman would sit still while listening to light jazz and talking with you? And I imagine that accounts for the girl in the photo being Asian (the submissive Asian female being a common stereotype).
I'm all for cuddling over sex, but this is a step beyond and merits further examination. It is a far cry from preferring cuddling to being afraid of normal women, retreating into a fantasy world.
My advice to everyone who feels their perfect mate matches a specific profile is to date as far outside that profile as possible.
2006-10-15 00:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sabrina H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. I'm also fifteen, and again, this may sound a little girly, but sometimes my girlfriend comes over at five and we sit on the roof together and watch the sunrise. Not quite as stimulating as having sex, but it's the things that you love that reall matter and that's the stuff you really remember for the rest of your life. I also think it's wrong for guys to rate girls and say **** like I'd hit that. THat's just stupid, cause you ain't got a chance in hell of hitting it. Stop living in dream world. remember. You're not alone in wanting to hold someone near you and just sit there forever.
2006-10-14 19:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by theshrabster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sweet and cuddling always leads to great sex, you can't go wrong with being cuddly, don't listen to the other guys' boasting talks, they don't know what they're talking about, trust me you'll have more love and respect from girls than those loud mouth, great sex will comes naturally
2006-10-14 19:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by jingleh4m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my boyfriend is like that. *I'm not plump or fat or anything..i'm average*
But he would love to just lay around other then have sex.. which is amazing because honestly I don't really want that.
Trust me, there should be more guys like you out there in the world.
2006-10-14 19:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by twiztidjuggalette_17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good. Nothing is wrong with you. Just one of the few good guys in the world.
2006-10-14 19:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is "seems" like is that you know the answer and want some validation. Ok... you are a senstive and caring male. all men should be like you! Now go get it.
2006-10-14 19:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by tommy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You just like different girls. No offense but alot of guys like chubbier girls, that is most definately not a problem, so please don't think that there is anything wrong with you.
2006-10-14 19:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young (and repetitive), but thing have to start somewhere. It sounds like you are starting with a wish for a non-preditory relationship that begins with comfort.
2006-10-14 19:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll grow out of it. The liking the fat girl part, uhh.. I guess some ppl like em.
2006-10-14 19:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Petey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋