My boyfriend and I had a long talk about what we wanted and didnt want b4 we started going out... He is scared of getting serious b/c he has been hurt so many times. I really like him. He has told me he is not ready for kids at all and when girls in the past told him they where preg. he told them to get abortions. He is so great with my daughter, he will sit and play with her for hours, and likes spending time with us. The last time we spoke on the phone someone asked me a question in the background about safe sex and I said of course i dont want to get pregnant. He asked me in a high tone voice "are you preg." I said no you misunerstood, He said oh cause the last time we had sex i kinda came in you (the condom came off so we kept going, please dont focus on this part of the question). I told him no. They way he said it did he do it on purpose or is he trying to find out my reaction and if i was okay with it??? I do want another child but with someone who wants one
2006-10-14 18:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Laprincessa1182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh we have sat down and talked about things a lot (kids/commitment) He does want children someday and he is scared of relationships but he has already shown signs that he never showed with past relationships... Oh and the only reason he is around my child is we have been good friends for over 2 years we only started a relationship 4 months ago after I broke up with my boyfriend and he told me of feelings he has had for me for a long time.
2006-10-14 18:56:45 · update #1
i think he wants one, but he has a fear of the development process. Or he could love kids (like when he plays with yours) but don't want any of his on........
2006-10-14 18:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by stress77mulah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didnt do it on purpose. Come on, the guy is dating you, he wouldn't try to get you pregnant and then demand abortion! But it is strange from a guy who is so commitment-phobic to make such a stupid mistake that could result in the one thing he fears the most - a child / a commitment.
Sometimes we are fine with things that are not really convenient for us in a long term. Eventually, we will pursue our own goals and desires. If this relationship works for you now, make the most of it, but unless his attitude towards having own family changes, you will go on and find someone else who will love you AND will want to have a family, Good luck!
2006-10-15 01:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know you care for this guy but if your goal is to be happy with two children you have not currently found your soul mate. I know he enjoys spending time with your daughter but it isn't fare to her to meet and interact with someone (become close to this person) and then have him fall out of her life when the two of you realize you are not meant to be. From what you are saying, I believe the two of you should break up mutually. Explain that you want more children and he does not. If he can't change his mind you are ending it right here and now. I wish you the best luck and know you will find your mr. right who gets along with your daughter and also has a goal of having a two sibling family. Take care
2006-10-15 01:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's a guy who doesn't want responsibility because first off, he tells his past gfs to get an abortion??? He just shows that he is not responsible enough for his actions. I suggest that you don't even start of having fantasies on having a kid with this guy!
2006-10-15 01:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is very difficult to be with men who doesn't want kids but you want.
If the one is not enough or enough problems already. How to find men to not left you, like previews with this one.
If the men is good stay with him, but he can't be under the pressure to have/must child with you. Is two people decision and maybe he change his mine if he really loves you soon or later.
2006-10-15 01:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is just worried....that he might have to support you all of a sudden beecuase you got pregnant.. i don't think he would ask to get information out of you since he made it clear from the beginning he didnt want kids....
and maybe he might want kids in the future.. you should ask him that.... if you guys get serious and stuff if he would consider another child...b/c he loves yours.... so he doesnt have problems with kids.. he prolly just doesnt wnt one while going out with someone ..he prolly wants after marriage.. you guys really need to talk about it....and if he says never...then you should find someone else that will want a nother child with you...someday...
2006-10-15 01:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is playing you..... If he's not ready for a child then he's not ready for a commitment to you. No offense, if he's not ready for a child then he needs to keep his dick in his pants. Any person that even thinks abortion is sick.
2006-10-15 01:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by cherry_kissez376 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS best to have a baby with a man that will be there. NOT some looser who makes women get abortions.
2006-10-15 01:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want kids,and you scared the crap out of him.He'll get over it.Just drop the subject.
2006-10-15 01:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just scared him s***less for a second. Not everything is as in depth as people think it is.
2006-10-15 01:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋