people always tell me i'm pretty, but i don't know because i'm always lonely. everytime i meet a guy that i like he never likes me back. he always just wants sex. i'm so frustrated! why does this happen to me? i'm sick of throwing my back out trying to get guys to like me.....only to end up alone and on my computer poppin sleepin pills to escape. what should i do? it's always the guys that are last on my list who seem like they're willing to treat me good. HELP!
2006-10-14 18:20:02 · 20 answers · asked by beachgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesn't matter what people think of you , what matters is whats your opinion as this is the thing that gives you the confidence.
so think positive bout yourself... you are no less ...
what you said bout relationships you had think over it ... may be you were acting tooooo friendly and it was mis interpreted by him..... otherwise he may be just a dumb guy.
don't worry things will be all-right ...just make friends with a little caution and you will find the right guy.
and one more thing sleeping pills are good for nothing they will just cause a partial short term memory loss ... (and that's my personal experience) so just stop taking those.. may be you will not be able to sleep for a day or two but later on everything will be all right.
2006-10-14 18:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by amit v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going about it the right way. You deserve credit for taking on your problem in a sensible way instead of wallowing in self pity. It's just a matter of time until your ship comes in. I'll mention a couple of very useful things that not everybody knows about. The Handbook of Self-Help Therapies, which reviews research on programs and books, says that The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns is the one most often recommended for depression by mental health professionals. It's very popular worldwide. Another book that you might find interesting is The Depression Cure by Stephen Ilardi, about the depression program developed at the University of Kansas, which consists of lifestyle changes, things we should all have anyway. Cognitive-behavioral therapy has been shown to be helpful to people with insomnia, which is explained in such books as No More Sleepless Nights by Peter Hauri, and Say Goodnight to Insomnia by Gregg Jacobs.
2016-05-22 03:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya!I feel the same way.I feel like when i'm with someone i'm a good girlfriend,but somehow i always endup getting dumped,so maybe it's me not them,maybe not.It sucks,but you have to go on with your life and try doing other things.Do u have friends to hang out with?that can take away some of the lonliness.But i know it's tough,you just gotta find some activities to do that will get you out there meeting people.Don't look for a arelationship just live life and you will find one when the time is right with the right person.I know that sounds cliche,but i've realized that it's the truth.Good luck!
2006-10-14 18:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by flexduty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you only are attracted to the "bad boys". Its time you start looking at some of the good guys. They may not seem as attractive to you but give them a chance. Its not the outside that matters, its whats on the inside. As you get older, you will realize its much easier fall for the person not the eye candy.
2006-10-14 18:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worry too much! You'll be fine. Stop beating yourself up. When it happens, it happens. If it doesn't for a while, just live your life until it does. Being yourself and not what others want you to be is the most improtant thing. Can ya dig it?
2006-10-14 18:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. The few special people wouldn't be so special, if they were easy to find. There are so many bad eggs to wade through that it will really take some time before you find the good ones.
2006-10-14 18:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Empty Skies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry - you will get the right guy soon , just wait and keep paitence , i respect women who wait for someone special rather than jump into the lot of guys who are scattered all around ! ..
Just wait , all will be well ! You will get someone who is truly deserving , go for it girl ! Keep cool and just give your self time !
2006-10-14 18:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what u mean, we're in the same boat.
im alone too, and im sick and tired of it.
you'll know what i mean if u look at all the questions i've been asking.
yeah....guys only do want sex. but not all guys are like that.
im 27 and still a virgin. and i've had 3 relationships.
and yet people call me a loser because im a virgin. looking down on me. sigh......
be strong. dont pop pills.
gimme 10 points, please? pleeeease?
2006-10-14 18:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Turn your list upside down. Honestly, just give it a try. Do you really want to break the pattern? Flip the list.
2006-10-14 18:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Onjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what your problem is... you're sick of being lonely. that right there is a lack of confidence, love being single and that's when you find the perfect guy. I promise it'll work!
2006-10-14 18:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by alltheanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋