We have been together since 1999. I moved here to Michigan after high school, i am originally from Ohio. I left my family and friends behind to be with the man i love. It's been a long time, still no ring. Do you think he will ever truely commit or should i just give up and leave him...? We own a home together, everything we have is in both of our names...he just wont even talk about marriage. What should i do?
2006-10-14 18:11:30 · 22 answers · asked by ~*StAcY*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well we don't have kids together, he doesn't really want kids, i want one Way later...im in school and don't have time for them now anyways. I have talked to him about marriage...a lot actually...and he usually tries to just change the subject. I ask him if he really loves me and he says yes...and he doesnt see whats wrong with what we have now. There's nothing wrong, i just want more. I need to have that committment...that's just how i am..and my whole family is like that. marriage is a big thing...and i need it to feel really close to him. I have expressed my feelings, and he says one day we will. Well damnit..when is this one day?
Ever since i have been bugging him about marriage our sex life has gotten slower...we are both always busy with school and work it's just hard to be with each other alone...to talk abou that kind of stuff. Any suggestions would help...u can talk to me on yahoo messenger: music_freak_4_life82 I mean..i think i am decent looking..hopefully i can do well .
2006-10-14 18:28:09 · update #1
ask him if he's afraid to commit. some guys are and if you press the subject he might to want to end it so try not to be pushy but you sure have a right to know if he intends on marrying you. just remind him that a ring doesnt mean you have to marry tomorrow, but it would be a great gesture after 5 years. A ring is really just a ring, nothing more. Yes it can mean you are engaged but to a guy that's a big step if he's not ready. Just reassure him you don't want to rush it but you aren't going to wait forever...and you shouldn't. If he really loves you he would have no problem proposing. I learned that the hard way. Now I have someone that really loves me and can't wait to marry me! Good luck, hope this helps.......another thing...you gave up your friends and family practically and moved away for him, what has he done for you? and he won't even AT LEAST buy you a freakin ring???
2006-10-14 18:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by spunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. If you stay in this relationship and nothing changes, then you are nothing but roommates and in the years to come, you would not be able to collect on his social security, or have any say in his care if he should become ill or disabled.
You should never have bought a house together and not combined your finances or anything else. If you want more than what you have, go to an attorney and find out just how you can get your share out of the house and everything else that you have your name on.
Then tell this guy goodbye, because nothing is ever going to change with him.
2015-12-28 10:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him talk about it. Don't make him marry you or ask you. Talk about it and express how you both really feel about it. I was in your shoes and at that point it's really just a piece of paper that proclames your love. But it's worthless if either one of you was forced to do it. Communication is the key to everything. If he can't just talk about it then there will be other issues later on that might just be worse. You guys a pretty much already married, but women require proof for some reason. It's just in our genes.
2006-10-14 18:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by c_jrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't believe in marriage.That doesn't mean he doesn't love you.Kot's of people have been together for very long without ever getting married.I ahve a friend who's been with his girl for ten years and they stilla ren't married.Does he know how much marraiage means to you?Maybe you should try to talk to him about it,but be careful how u say it, and make there is no alchol involved.My manager at my old job did that to her BF,but she was drunk when she burlted out why aren't we engaged..blah blah and he dumped her.Just tread lightly.Good luck!
2006-10-14 18:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by flexduty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are married. What else do you need? Papers and a ring? That stuff won't change your situation, so what's the difference? If you're unhappy, then leave. But given your situation, if you decide to leave, it'll be like getting divorced...
If you feel that strongly about, just let him know.
2006-10-14 18:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by chillwill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him more time, ask him if he loves you with all your heart. Keep an eye on him, and try, in some way, to bring up a subject on marriage. If you really love him, you won't give up on him.
2006-10-14 18:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bagel. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Essentially you are living as a married couple, so I dont see commitment being the main issue. If it is important for you to be legally married, then you will probably have to change your current situation (ie. living together, shared accounts) if you want to make yourself heard.
2006-10-14 18:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by AGNY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he won't marry you because he has ALL the goodies without commitment., Your parents and friends warned you but you went after the sex. You can't leave because you let him put his name on everything too,. Bet you paid for most of it. Bet you are working and he is not. Go home to mommy and daddy and apologize,.
2006-10-14 18:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no because the longer you are together a better foundation you build. Plus you dont need marriage to prove how much you guys love each other. Thats my opinion. Eventually the time will come
2006-10-14 18:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by biggamej4mes23 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No. He will not. If he's getting the honey when ever he wants to then no. He's comffertable and realizes your not going anywhere so why buy a ring?
2006-10-14 18:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋