my bf has 2 new born twins a 2 year old one one the way by some other girl and now a 16 year old neice he has to take care of because his brother died.i really like him but i really dont want to have to take care of all this he says he doesnt need any help but he has apsolutly no parenting skills.i really like him but thats just to much.were 21 he has a phd but he know absolutly nothing hes one of those people who are used to getting want they want because of there looks.and thats pretty much all he knows.
2006-10-14 18:05:18 · 13 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like there is something else going on beside the kids. If you are unhappy, then leave, but don't blame the kids. I'm sure you knew he had kids when you first started dating him, so why bother? I am divorced with 3 kids, and I hate when women refer to my kids as baggage. Don't start something you know you can't handle.
2006-10-14 18:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by chillwill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to marry him, but not willing to accept all the added frills that come along with the package. Right now, he really needs a friend. Give him that friendship whether it be parenting or shopping for him. Then later on, he might wake up and ask you to marry him. You might be ready at that point. Another thing to ponder is... he's finished his schooling and having a Ph.d., will go far. and that degree can demand a "pretty penny." Whom ever he marries will probably hire a nanny and a housekeeper. Just wait and lend a hand to him. Be patient! Don't be a nag! Don't pressure him to make a decision between his responsibilities, his obligations and you. Giving ultimatums will push him away from you - that is if you really want to be in his life.
2006-10-14 18:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ms-No-It-All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself or keep yourself in a situation you're not comfortable with. It may seem shallow to some people, but if you're not okay with something, you shouldn't have to tough it out. This is your life, and you can make your own choices. If you really like him that much, try a compromise.
2006-10-14 18:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by tigerfish313 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are ready to be an instant mom you have the wrong guy. He comes with a lot of baggage. He doesn't sound like someone I would want to get involved with anyway, he seems to "sew his seed" everywhere he goes.
2006-10-14 18:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like alot of baby moma drama. How long have you beenw ith him being that he has one on the way. You said that you really like him not love him.This is not your cup of tea then do not get involved in the drama. Move on with your life. You can be his friend.
2006-10-14 18:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends....I wish I had not married my husband who already had a 16 yr old daughter.... her mother is always calling my house for this, that and the other.....it can be really annoying....remember the kids and their mother will be in his life forever and unless you wanna be part of that ....leave now....
2006-10-14 18:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, no not at all he has made decision, did he consult you and ask you if you were up for parenting?
also it would be worse if you stayed and didn't have your heart in it, and also kid's would be the ones who would suffer, move on and let him meet someone that possibly has a couple of kids and they would be far more compatible..
allow yourself to be real to yourself girl,,'
good luck
2006-10-14 18:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Adrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that it a sign of maturity to admit that it would be more than you can handle we all must or should know our limitations and live within those boundaries
2006-10-14 18:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him ull follwo ur heart if it were me id stay no matter what the road lies ahead if i truley loved him!
2006-10-14 18:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by Booboo B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not if you don't like them and won't be a good stepmother to them.
2006-10-14 18:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋