i kinda want a guys opinion but girls are wlcome to answer it too?

Question

ok so im 18, im still a virgin, but i really just wanna do it...i kinda want it to be with a a guy i've been hooking up with for a while (which i actually kinda like, and i think he kinda likes me too) but if not, i wouldnt even really care who it was with...is there anything really wrong with that? and if i do do it with that guy do u think he would like not respect me as much after that or anyhting?

Answer 1

Yea you should wait, don't wanna regret ****, and that's something that people ALWAYS freakin regret cause they rush. If you're gonna do it, do it with somebody WORTH IT, cause that first time ain't gonna be all that you think it's gonna be, and it gets all emotional too. I'm my fiance's first, and I made DAMN sure she didn't regret it, lot of times dudes don't understand or they don't show any compassion to a girls' first, specially if it's just a ****. So it's better to lose it to someone who genuinely cares for you, it just makes it that much better. **** i remember my first time, although i'm a guy, it sucked cause i didn't do it with someone who cared about me, i dont' regret it cause it was my choice to lose it on a bunch of ****, but it sucks cause it was more a one night stand, and not something worthwhile (and granted i waited til i was 23...yea i had some serious morals). Course sex is addictive too, so I ended up going through a chain of women before I met my fiance, and it sucked cause if i waited just a little longer we could've given each other our virginity, makin it THAT MUCH better....but things happen for a reason i suppose. SO DON'T DO IT until you got something WORTH losin it to.

Answer 2

Make sure you really like him and he really likes you, Once you sleep with a guy then you will automatically (as a girl) have so much feelings for him, there is nothing worse then sleeping with a guy then really liking him and he dont care he is just happy he bagged a virgin. Besides the first time is kinda uncomfortable for you so it would be sooo good if you had a guy who understands and cares about you instead of one who just wants to pound you till he gets off.... I'm not saying you should wait for marriage just someone you care about.... The longer he waits for you the more you know he cares for you and the better the sex

Answer 3

Dear Fini,
You've made it to 18 which is a Major accomplishment nowadays. Do not waste the effort by doing it with just anyone.
And if you don't really care who it is, why would you think he is going to have respect for you?
The only guy who is really going to respect you afterward is someone who loves you. Perhaps a husband. It may not be what you'd like to hear, but it's most often the truth. Especially if pregnancy results.

Answer 4

Fini, let me start by saying that it is normal to feel what you feel.

Let me also say that it is just as normal and okay to be a virgin at 18 years. There is nothing wrong with wanting to save yourself (that is, to save your first act of sexual intercourse) until you are with your husband on your honeymoon.

Now let me say this: would you not rather to have that special moment with the man you love and have made a life-long commitment to or with someone whom you might not even remember his last name later on? And would YOU really respect yourself afterwards?

Fini, the decisions people make can either reap great benefits or tragic consequences. This one IS that important and you ARE that important -- decide wisely.

Answer 5

Why would you want to "just wanna do it"? That's dumb. Life is short and there are few things in life to hold onto the memories for. Losing your virginity should be one of them and shouldn't be given to someone you "kinda like". Wait. 18 is really not old at all in the big sheme of things.

Answer 6

I know you're curious about sex but you should really do it with someone you love. I know it sounds so corny but think about it. Your virginity is something special...do you just want to give it away for the hell of giving it away? Think about it. If you're so hooked on having the big "O" get yourself a vibrator and just play with it...it's lots of fun....and you can give your virginity to someone who deserves it.

Good luck.

PS - plus having sex means your possibility of getting pregnant is even greater...would you want to get pregnant by just anyone. And YES you can get pregnant your first time...I did!! I had my son at 18 b/c I got pregnant at 17 when I lost my virginity!!!

Answer 7

choose your first partner carefully, do you have feelings for that person blah blah blah etc etc. I would honestly just wait, make it special. the first time you have sex is actually a special occasion. in ten years time you don't want to remember your first time as some sleezy hookup where you wound up bent over some random guy's tailgate out in the middle of nowhere. do you? it may not mean much to you now, but in years to come you will want to look back and have fond memories of your first sexual experience. wait for the second time to get bent over the tailgate. he he

Answer 8

It is natural for you to get horny and want to have sex. Woman can get just as horny as any man can. Albeit that the path to arousal is different between men and woman. Do save yourself for someone you have feelings for instead of banging the first guy that says yes to you. Sex is so much better when there is feeling behind it.

Answer 9

sorry I'm a girl but a girl that used to be just like you...if you feel that it is your time to have sex then go for it! just stay proteced and make sure you know the guy in case you get pregnant. You want to make sure that he would be a ok father. good luck and happy sex life.

Answer 10

Save yourself for a pro athlete, or a rock star, or maybe an actor. Someone you could brag about to your grandkids. I had a teacher once who told us about going on a date with Hank Williams, Jr. when she was young. She didn't say they had sex, but come on, it was Hank.