I am fifteen and have never been with a guy. And by been with a guy, I mean I've never had a boyfriend, kissed, etc. Nothing sexual, not ready for that. Anyway, the thing is I am really picky. I know so many nice guys, but there is something "wrong" with them- don't care about their grades, once smoked, once drank, been with a lot of girls. Should I not be so picky, or should I wait for the "perfect guy" Does one even exhist?
Should it really matter if they guy has smoked or drank if he only did it once and will never do it again? And what about grades? I'm kind of a naive goody-goody with my grades, smoking, drinking, etc
2006-10-14 17:40:49 · 22 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should definitely be picky! The perfect guy really does exist and if you haven't met him yet then you're probably just not ready for him yet. But yeah, set your standards high, get to know guys that are goody-goody just like you. I have also never kissed a guy, never had a serious boyfriend, and I'm 16. I know that it is definitely worth it not to get involved with smokey, drinkey guys, I have seen so many lives ruined because of the effects alcohol and drugs have on people.
2006-10-14 17:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO GUY IS PERFECT. i cant stress that enough..............its not good to be picky cuz it'll make you lose a chance with a good guy that only has a tiny flaw, and other stuff like that. as for drinking and smoking, i would watch out for that kinda stuff, thats the kinda thing you wanna be safe about. dont worry bout grades, its a stupid thing to judhe a guy about, grades are the reason my last GF broke up with me, it was so dumb. so yea, i'm 15 also, but a whole lot more experienced, i've been around the bases a few times, so yea, dont be so jugdemental, if you got more questions, hit me back
2006-10-15 00:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by ghost_of_onyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no perfect guys.... just young men to meet and become friends with. You shoudnt be jumping into bed anyways. I like that you are not doing that. Meet and get to know lots of guys. When you find the right guy and he finds you...you will know it. It aint easy, be positive and be yourself.
Being picky would tell me that you have definied what you are looking for in a possible first boyfriend.Why not just enjoy meeting a bunch of different guys. And finding what works....
2006-10-15 00:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by irishladsj1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, no one's perfect. almost everyone in the world has smoked once or drank once. If they'll never do it again i wouldnt worry too much about it. grades on the other hand...well its different for everyone, but i sort of do the same thing. if a guy doesnt care about his grades im not interested. but if i were you id lower my standards a little. good luck :)
2006-10-15 00:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Riss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's alright to be picky, but only if it's with the right things. Everybody makes mistakes in their lives, and you shouldn't hold those mistakes against them forever. It's not a terrible thing to have high standards and high expectations, but it's not good to be unwilling to compromise. You're never going to find the perfect person, so you need to make up your mind on what imperfections you're willing to tolerate.
2006-10-15 00:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be picky. I was one who wasn't and I really regret that. There were so many guys I dated because I thought to myself, "This is as good as it's going to get." Be picky, stick up for your standards. Someday, you'll end up with a guy you never thought you'd be able to find. Believe me, he's worth the wait.
2006-10-15 00:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by NSisifo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know it shud not be a big deal wehter the guy smoke or drinks
coz the most important thing is hiw attitude towrds u
u see my bf smokes but when i am around he dont smoke cause he doesnt want me to inhale and get sick of his smoking habit that is really nice right,.. and my dad drinks too, but its occational cause drinking occasionally is healthy too,,. dont get me wrong we need wine also red wine for smooth flow of blood, but not tons.
i guess it depends on how the guy handled his vices..
and u think if u are so picky and want everythin to be perfect would they pick u?
ahm i guess not,..
2006-10-15 00:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by 00_tyradjh_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and all i can say is that you re a good person don't doubt yourself and don't settle for less than you believe you're worth. keep up the good grades( it sounds like you make good grades) and keep your head up 15 is young you have all the time in the world to play.
2006-10-15 00:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by rjl2382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key word your 15.
One day if your not careful you'll wakeup and realize your 39 and live at home still in the basement with 15 cats.
2006-10-15 00:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with your standards at all. You are only 15, give yourself time. I also didn't drink or smoke (and still have a problem with smokers).
You'll meet others like you.
2006-10-15 00:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by shakopcool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋