so everybody tells me "youll find that guy when u least expect it" but its always in the back of my mind that i wanna find someone. how do u get it off ur mind and get totally independent that needing that guy it not at all a priority or a thought of mine? i just wanna stop caring and its so hard trying to get guys off my mind. HOW?! HELP!
p.s. and NO im not going to become a lesbian, just for those smart alec answers that people like to leave!!!
2006-10-14 17:36:48 · 11 answers · asked by teneff88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never knew there were this many love sick women in the world. I must be doing something wrong.
The short answer is to stop looking for Mr. Right and settle for Mr. Right Now. Then at least you have some hamburger to keep you satisfied until that nice Filet Mignon shows up on the menu.
2006-10-14 17:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. It's difficult to go through these things.
Having been there, I can tell you that only time will get the guy off your mind. The people who have answered above saying you should focus on your friends, school, and having fun are absolutely right. He will be in the back of your mind for a while, but eventually someone else will come along and over time you'll find you haven't thought of this particular guy in a long time.
I wish you well.
2006-10-14 17:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I confess that I have the same problem, but day after day I feel a little better. Heartache is a strange thing sometimes it hits you when you least expect it, like watching a couple in a store, before you know it tears are rolling and you think , if there is someone for everyone where is my guy?It's okay to cry, but try to do things to pamper yourself and do things to help someone else, like an elderly neighbor, take out their trash or take them cookies. I help the little old lady on my block with her flowers now I'm hooked, I have flowers everywhere! Day by day you will feel a little better. Also write someone and help them.... that's why I decided to write to you.
2006-10-14 17:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by loretta_dulce_melos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out and have a good time with your friends. Play darts, pool. And quit looking. You'd be surprised how many unworthy men will pick up on a girl just out looking for Mister Right. And, just try to pick up on you for the night. Then you got the guys, when you are acting not interested in finding a guy that get curious and start asking questions. Just drop the looking and have some fun. Games, whatever when your out. At a party, your just there socializing, not looking for a man. It's your friends party. Whatever. Just do your own thing and the right one will wander along eventually. They are never going to be off your mind any more than women off theirs. But you need to pick and choose carefully. Guys tend to go for a challenge, but so do women. But guys, I found feel more comfortable with a woman that they can just talk to and are not out to find a date or one night stand. Especially the one night stand. There isn't anything wrong with you caring. Everybody want s to find that right guy. Sometimes I wonder if there is any left out there. I'm sure there is,. I'm just tired of looking, so to heck with it. I go to Karoeke, and I go to see bands. I go play pool, go to movies, just get out for awhile. Just get your attitude together and eventually, you're not going to want to have some guy trying to pick you up. And, you will find the right guy when you least expect it. But when, I don't know anymore than you do. But good luck to us!! Right??
2006-10-14 17:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah im pretty much going through the exact same thing. but some things have helped me to become better at not needing a guy at all..
-playing sports and really taking them seriously lol...be competive
-get it in your head that the only way you will go out with a guy is if he treats you like a queen...so if you see a guy you like but he doesnt treat you that great you'll prolly forget about him(works for me i dunno why)
-keep busy
-hang out with your friends a lot and not your guy friends...and just have as much fun as you possibly can because then you wont feel the need to have a boyfriend
-just enjoy every part of life..i found thats the one that helps me the most cauz i use to think that finding your true love would be the greatest thing but theres so many other amazing things to enjoy in life..and theres plenty of time to find your true love and then you gotta spend the rest of your life with him and have all these fights and yeah lol i dont think its that great so just remmeber that
anyways hope ive helped...i hope you understand some of my answers
2006-10-14 17:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just become involved with other things to get it off your mind. Focus on your studies or your work, join a local club or organization, or become involved in a community church. Don't always focus on trying to be perfect or thinking about how everybody is watching you, just try to be yourself and let your personality shine through.
2006-10-14 17:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends. Honestly, they are what pull you through, take your mind off of things, have fun with you, make you laugh, ect. That's all you need. Focus on school, your job, things you like to do (paint or read or dance) - while doing all of these things, you're bound to meet someone who will blow you away. Give it time, don't let it creep under your skin.
2006-10-14 17:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is stop telling yourself to NEED a man.You want a man in your life,when you go out,just be yourself,you may very well find one when you lease expect it or when you go out in search of one.You'll have one when you want one,not until.
2006-10-14 17:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play games, that always helps me!
2006-10-14 17:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Love Love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well jus tfind the right guy its not going to be forever just be pationent!!
2006-10-14 17:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋