The stress in our life and marriage has been pretty unbarable. My husband seems to be addictive in nature, he used to smoke, I made him quit, he started drinking caffine in mass amounts (2-4 red bulls a day) and finally he stopped that (although he still drinks too much coke and coffee) now, since he has to work all the time and full time school, he has taken to drinking a lot. He'll go through over half a huge bottle of rum and at least a six pack of beer in a week. I've been trying to tell him he is turning into an alcoholic and should quit now before it gets worse, but he thinks it's stupid. He's really really stubborn, he never listens and thinks he has complete control over his body, so addiction to him is just not possible. What can I do to keep him from becoming and alcoholic? He's drinking more and more each week...
2006-10-14 17:36:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I may nag, but it's not without good reason. I have a 1 year old to concern myself with. Not only should he be a safe person for her to be around, but he should set a good example too.
2006-10-14 17:46:16 · update #1
Okay, we are on each others nerves constantly, we are TOO MUCH ALIKE. Neither of us back down. I could lay off him a bit (although I wish he would lay off me!) but, what I'm worried about is that that is not going to make him stop. If he had always drank like this, I wouldn't be worried, but it's almost like he is replacing other addictions with this. He started out drinking a few beers a day, then it turned into more and then came the hard liquor, it just seems to be getting worse. I'm worried if I lay off he will slip to a point of no return, where as now he could turn back...
2006-10-14 17:53:27 · update #2
Your his wife, your around him more than anyone...you love the man and only want whats best for him, no one should attack you for that!! Any addiction can be harmful, I would get some help here, family & friends to take an objective view perhaps lend you the support you need to get through this. Whether your hubby thinks its stupid or not, drinking that much is bad for his health, his liver!!
Good luck and I hope he cuts down, there is no reason to drink so much...perhaps there are other issues he can't deal with, perhaps couples therapy?!
2006-10-14 17:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that maybe he's doing all this for your attention? Is there something else in your relationship that has changed since this has happened? A half a bottle of rum and a six pack of beer in a week is not an alcoholic unless the person drinking it has an adverse personality change. Each individual is very different regarding alcohol intake and how effects there life. Sounds like your trying to control his life...does he miss work? Or physically harm you are anyone else? Does he take care of himself and his responsibilities? If he can do all of this he is not an alcoholic. Maybe you need to look in the mirror for an explanation on what is happening here.
2016-05-22 03:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you're worried now and looking to stop him. It's easy to let things go to the point of no return.
Alcoholism is a progressive disease. I think you should go to your local AA meeting and not tell anyone. There you can ask the experts and others whove been there, about some ways that you can help him see where he's heading. If he has an addictive personality, DO NOT blame yourself for his behavior. You're not only being a great wife to him, but you're being a great friend.
Good luck...
ps if you know his doctor, you may mention his compulsive personality to him. He may have a form of dpression, that's not really "sadness", but impulsive behavior and it's greatly helped with antidepressants. Never tell him he's sick or that he needs medicine, but if you tell his doctor, then he can bring it up without getting your husband defensive.
2006-10-14 17:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely...id start by dumping all the drinks out..and not letting him drink except onthe weekends...and then talking ot him about his stress and problems because thats what he's using to solve them..your a team and if one of you isnt working right you both cant work together so you just need to explain that to h im....goodluck sweetie i kno wit can be tough but you gotta just hang in there
2006-10-14 17:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good luck with that I wish I had an answer mine is the same way from smoking to cheating to drugs to drinking and still smoking thru all the whole thing. try alanon that helped me out. oh I forgot eating and lying and stealing.
2006-10-14 18:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, do you ever tell him what he is doing right? Are you working to help take some of the pressure off? Do you ever stop looking at his shortcomings and look at your own? You sound like a nag; no wonder he is drinking, its his only escape. Leave him alone and see what you can do to make his life better.
2006-10-14 17:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need a little help from other people in this situation. It's easy for him to ignore what you say, because you're only one person. Let other people in his life know that you are worried about him and get them involved in trying to help him out.
2006-10-14 17:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
overcome evil with good. dont nag him... just be patient and show him that you still care and best of all, pray, pray, pray...there is no impossible with God.. (do you believe in God anywa?) Trust me, it may take time but it will...
2006-10-14 17:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by justsexy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alcohol is no problem. I have been known to get lit up from time to time. As long as he doesn't beat you, it's all good.
2006-10-14 17:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by FrozenCloud 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get him some help if he doesnt want the help then leave him take you and your child and go
2006-10-14 23:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by lil e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋