Anyone I've truly had a crush on was either in a relationship, or was looking for a specific type that I am not. I've dated people who were into me (for that very purpose), but I was far from interested. I'd like to break this frustrating cycle, but how? If knowledge can set me free, please fire away with answers!
2006-10-14 17:30:30 · 7 answers · asked by Oceanswimmer26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to stop dating men that are unavailable.
2006-10-14 17:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your afraid of a true commitment. You go after someone you really cant have, or someone who you really dont like ...because you have that easy out when things get weird. This saves you from truly getting hurt because you truly dont let yourself fall for a guy.
Stop selling yourself short by chasing guys who dont want you- and give a guy who may not be your type at the moment a chance. Just think if those guys you liked who THOUGHT you werent thier type did that! Sometimes you need to broaden your horizons and you will be shocked on what you discover about yourself. It cant hurt- the current dating style you have isnt working for you..lol.
2006-10-14 17:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up...That's all it is to it. Believe me, I've been where you are and I've finally met a guy that I actually like who likes me back. Usually I'm just like you and into guys that are unavailable for one reason or another and I've tried to date the guys who were into me, but I just couldn't stand it. So I don't know what changed in me that made me like someone who liked me, but when it's right it will happen. I just say grow up, but I don't even know if that's the answer because I had just got done dating a guy who was emotionally unavailable and wouldn't commit when I met my current guy.
I'm sure you know it's all about the challenge, which is where the grow up part is, but you can't make yourself like someone who you really aren't intertested in...believe me, I've tried.
Good luck to you. It ain't easy girl.
2006-10-14 17:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take some time off from actually "dating" and figure out who you are and what makes you tick. When you keep desiring people that are unobtainable, it might be because in your subconscious you know you can't have them so its safe to have that fantasy about them and hence, no commitment.
You can set yourself free, just start following your belly button (your initial instinct, before you dink around with it) Good luck!
2006-10-14 17:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not wrong to love the unavailable but if there's any way you can get out of the vicious cycle... try to. it's for your own good so you can shield yourself from the disappointment and pain in the long run.
love has its own time. do not push it when it's not meant to be. sure there's someone really meant for you. if you do pray, do ask for signs. it may take long, but it'll be given to you.
2006-10-14 17:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by nathania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people always want what they can't have. it is often the challenge of achieving the unattainable. once they have succeeded in getting what they wanted, they often discard the object or person after their interests have moved on to something else
2006-10-14 17:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think dat u change dat but try 2 stop cause u probably cant have them
2006-10-14 17:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by numba_1_babii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋