our plans may get cancelled at the very last minute due to the fact that he may (unexpectedly) get his son at the last minute. I know that I have a choice but what is the best way to cope with this? My newly found man is also in his early 40's. help!
2006-10-14 17:08:02 · 8 answers · asked by carolsand10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I respect him for placing his child first. Too many people place their children second, after their girlfriend/guyfriend.
I do think there is one situation when he needs to let the child's mother know there won't be any quick switcheroos, and that is if you plans are particularly special (such as having a wedding to attend).
Particularly since you say you began dating this person, I think its reasonable of him to kind of see you as a "nice social situation" that has to wait if the child shows up.
One thing you may want to consider, though, and that is whether he's using the child as an excuse to back out of something. That would be an indication of something in his personality that you may want to avoid.
There is also a point where it would be unfair to you for him to keep switching plans (even if he's doing it for a decent reason), and you may want to consider that part of it too. On the other hand, if you got going together more seriously he may do things differently.
2006-10-14 17:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a woman with 2 children. Last minute cancellations can happen, Be wary if they happen too often??
He needs to be honest with you and decide if he is truly available to date.
If he is then he will make time for you.
As a Single 44 year old no kids... I know where you are at...
Dating people with children, the children are more of a priority then you are...you have to accept that...and that is hard!
Good Luck
2006-10-15 00:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by irishladsj1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him roll with it the child comes first, sorry. If he has to do last minute parent duty it never last all night. Pick up a movie and some take-out and cuddle on the couch. You can do Good Luck
2006-10-15 00:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if the two of you can sit down to talk about it, see how he feels about you meeting and spending time with his son. Brainstorm ideas about doing things with the three of you, and most importantly is to
COMMUNICATE
If the two of you don't talk about it, you run the risk of there being problems later. Don't come at this in a confrontational matter, but do bring it up as something you want to talk with him about. Let him know that you are interested in him AND his life and you know that his son is very important to him.
2006-10-15 01:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe go over and see him. I am a single parent-engaged to a wonderful and patient man. We canceled plans-had weird moments and dates. You just work through them.
2006-10-15 00:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to answer is you deal or you don't. I know that it might be hard but put yourself in his shoes. if you had a child how would you want someone to work with you.
2006-10-15 00:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Big Chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.... i didnt understand a word you just said..... good luck
2006-10-15 00:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept it or move on that's all there is to it.
2006-10-15 00:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋