He doesn't know it but as he's on his way over you decide you're going to make lunch for the both of you. You decide to shower first, realizing he will probably arrive before you get out, which is ok b/c then u can ask if it's something he wants to eat, or if he'll just want to go pick something up, especially since you never get to see each other much less go out together.You shower, he's still not there so, since he was taking so long to get there you thought maybe he's going to stop off at your favorite restaurant and bring lunch to you as a surprise and a very sweet gesture. So you decide to wait until he gets there just incase he has really done this. He walks in and has brought lunch, but only for himself because he knows you don't like the food he brought but didn't even call to ask if you wanted something else.Then after telling him how thoughtless that is, he calls you a big baby so you tell him to leave.Now he's mad at u 4 that. Who should be mad at who?
2006-10-14 17:01:28 · 24 answers · asked by ThatsNachocheese 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Working on communication might be key here...
I know that surprising him by making lunch while he is en route is sweet, but if you only see him once a week, a call might be in order first before he comes over (either by you or him) to ask if he has eaten. That way, arrangements are made and there is little chance of a misunderstanding.
Now, I'm not shouldering everything on you here. Communication is a two-way process -- your boyfriend has to step up to the plate as well. If he is running late, a call to you would be reasonable (as would some extra food to-go on his part for you, just to be a gentleman).
As far as who should be mad at whom, well, does it really matter? Just chalk this up as an opportunity to further your relationship by talking to each other and to establish some kind of communication protocol so that this kind of foul-up would not be as likely to happen.
You will find (as I have) that relationshps are never perfect and things like this happen every so often.
2006-10-14 17:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are three sides to every story, yours, mine, and the truth. I think you nailed this one right on the head. No one should get mad at anyone, you had expectations he didnt live up to (which would have been hard to guess anyway.) But he shouldnt have brought you nothing and something for just him, thats just really rude, and he souldnt have called you a baby, how that helps
2006-10-14 17:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jon B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are morons - have you not figured that out yet? He probabably didnt mean anything by it. You need to tell him that it would have been nice if he called and asked if you wanted something. Let him know that you enjoy spending time with him and was hoping he would be sweet and surprise you with lunch since you know he knows what food you like. You need to make him WANT to prove that he is worth every great compliment you give him. You catch more bees with honey. Guys wouldnt listen to complaining or agree to change bc you make him feel bad. You need to stroke his ego alittle to work that macho side of him.
2006-10-14 17:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by KA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys do not think the same way we do. Instead of getting mad and making a big deal, just say, "oh i was going to make us lunch, I wish you would have called and let me know, I would have asked you to get me something"That way he may have felt bad on his own lol...who knows guys dont get it anyway
2006-10-14 17:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by IkeandTina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and calmly state the obvious. Just ask if he would be upset if it had been the other way around. Getting upset is a big turn off - It shuts down their common sense. If you say it s l o w l y he'll get it and even apologize...
2006-10-14 17:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by La_Belle_LadyR99 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That right there shows hes selfish. He didn't even bother to get you anything and if he was nice he would of gone somewhere else and gotten food for you too. I'd get rid of that guy and not worry about him calling you a baby and get a man who would consider you too. Shows to me what the future holds with him.
2006-10-14 17:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both acted immaturly first off.So you are both wrong but yeah he was def inconsiderate.Once a week isn't bad though more is nice.You put way too much thought into him coming over too and how it should play out so you had expectations.Expectations are premeditated disappointments!
2006-10-14 17:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by drokk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey take a breath they are men ! If you want consideration get more girlfriends. He likes you or he would not even give you once a week just get a hobby and enjoy your own company more and his behavior will not bug you bcuz this will not b the last time he is inconsiderate.
2006-10-14 17:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should be mad at him because hes being selfish and inconsiderate to bring food but only for him, he shouldnt be mad at you because he prbaly didnt feel like getting you anything which is wrong so really hes being a big baby dont you think?
2006-10-14 17:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh your bf sure didn't had u in mind when he bought his own lunch and make u wait sooo long. Don't worry it's not your fault, he just don know how to treasure u yet.
2006-10-14 17:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by dream_zhijie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋