Why is it so hard for a nice guy to get a hot female?

Question

It seems like women go for guys that treat them like crap.

Answer 1

yea, we do....
i cant tell you why, i sure wish i knew myself.
its like candy, i suppose i can say, and even though its incredibly bad for you, you want it real bad. you dont want that carrot because you know itll do you good and it wont harm you any, but you want that candy.

plus, that candy usually comes in shiny wrappers.
im sure if a nutricious treat came inside a shiny wrapper that would do a world of difference. and sometimes they do.


sorry i wasnt much help, but what can i say? a girl's a girl. trust ne, none of us want to get hurt; no one does. but its like a moth to a light.

Answer 2

I am a nice guy and I have no problem of getting a woman of any degree of beauty. It is nice guys who have no confidence or backbone who do not get the hotties. There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy. However, do carry yourself like you are the man. Don't be so nice that you are kissing her ***. Nobody likes an *** kisser.

Girls like a the bad boys who treat them like crap. They see the bad boys as more confident and adventerous. Of course over a short amount of time, their act will wear thin. Women on the other hand know better what they want in a man and will accept no less than she deserves. This is where being a nice guy has its advantages.

Also don't confuse being nice to a woman with being sensual and romantic to a woman. Two different feelings. Being nice to a woman may make a woman like you, but it won't make a woman feel anything more than just a friend to you. Knowing how to woo a woman and make her heart melt makes her see you more than just a friend.

Answer 3

Women don't like men to treat them like crap.

Women like a project! They want a fixer upper, that diamond in the rough that they can clean up.

Look for the hot girl that's been with a few jerks, and be nice. Just avoid the major pitfall of nice guys... desparation! There is no stink that will clear out a room full of ladies faster than a desparate man.

Answer 4

Not every hot chick is that way. They may like a guy who seems masterful and in control and confident. A nice guy can be all those things and still be nice. It is the way you present yourself. If the hot girls are just out for the show, they're pretty guttery themselves, so why would you want them. There's lots of good looking women who would like a nice and loving guy.

Answer 5

First and foremost, as long as you believe that, it will happen. Secondly, women are nurturing and loving creatures and when they are at their best, they are sacrificing self for the betterment of others. In their minds, it's ok to tolerate the treatment if there is still promise of improvement and in their hearts it becomes very difficult for them to tell. Please do not start treating women badly so you can land a girlfriend, chances are she's going to want to help you be someone else, and that's when the conflicts start. Men should not consider women as objects, and those that treat them with anything less than absolute respect are pigs. "Nuff said.

Answer 6

If you want women to like you because you are a NICE GUY, why aren't you asking how to get women that are NICE instead of HOT? See how hypocritical this is? You want women to like you for what is on the inside, but all you care about is how hot the girl is.

Answer 7

When women are young they're lookin for excitement alot of times, watch when you get past 26 or so, and start trying to date, you'll find it easier to talk to older women cause that whole excitement stage disappears, and FINALLY realize that nice guys are the ones that they can keep a stable relationship with, course sucks for you cause since they've been around the block and back what you give won't be enough sometimes unless you're just as experienced or got something good.
BUT, there are mature decent FINE *** women out there, i was lucky enough to talk to one myself, and ironically alot of fine inteligent (inteligence being the key word here) women are single because they deal with the same ol' garbage (thugs, assholes, playas) trying to get that no. 1 thing they got. So don't look in the wrong places (ghetto chicks, dumbass chicks, preppy chicks, drama queens, high maintenance women) look in the RIGHT places, women who actually focus on school SERIOUSLY, high paying job areas, some banks n stuff, or go to places where you may assume decent women would hang out at, NOT THE DAMN CLUBS, or the damn sorority spots at colleges. You look in the trash you're gonna find.. TRASH. So it's all a matter of where you put yourself and what type of women you associate yourself with, rather than being biased and saying all women like pricks n stuff. Cause yea a lot of em do, but not all of them. It took me ****..24 years to find my fiance, and i talked to A HELL of a lot of sorry *** females, but fortunately she kinda..fell into my arms so to speak. patience is a virtue dammit.

Answer 8

I would examine the facts first, before asking the question. Are you really sure that nice guys finish last? Women say the same thing, you know.

Answer 9

Now why on earth would hot female wanna be hooked up with a nice guy??? Think about it.

Answer 10

I think some girls want to be a hero so they go for bad guys that they think they can change so that they can feel like they are just that much more special. It usually doesn't work out so well though.