He goes from person to person annoying the hell out of them and it is obviously my week for him to annoy me. He keeps sitting next to me staring at what I do on the PC, reading my IMs out loud. Every time I tell him to go away he either hits me or says "shut up" and stays where he is. Then he starts climbing on me. My laptop has to stay in the living room. My mom is ignoring him. What do I do??? He keeps telling me to make him food, open drinks for him, do this, do that, and if I don't, he yells until my mom DOES notice, and she looks down on me for not doing those things for him. I'm really losing patience! (I am 17 he is 8).
Should I just spank him? How exactly do I keep him down and how many times/what do I spank with?
2006-10-14 16:43:28 · 16 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Why don't you just show him more love? I don't know, seems to me the child is feeling neglected. Do you play with him? Does anyone in the family do what he enjoys? Young children require so much attention, and love. I know it must be aggrivating to you, but, he is so young, please try to be a friend to him. This is such a fragile age, his self esteem is in progress right now, you are his sister, he looks up to you, teach him, love him, he's just trying to find his place in this world.
2006-10-14 16:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mum. Tell her you are trying to do stuff and he won't leave you alone. If this doesn't work. Get off the computer then when he goes to bed get back on. This way you can go out and do something with him and he may then leave you alone later or go to your room and read or study, basically get away from him. I have a 7.5 year old boy and they are annoying at this age(love him immensely but sometimes he just doesn't know when to stop) but as the mum i give him time out when he goes too far which is what it sounds like that your brother needs
2006-10-14 20:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 8 year old is old enough to open his own things and get his own drinks. I teach 8 year olds, and I make them do it themselves. He's just being an annoying brother because that's his job. Your mom, on the other hand, is NOT doing hers. You need time to yourself, and your mom should help your brother to respect that time. Tell her how frustrating it is, and ask if there are certain times during the day when SHE can watch HER child so you can have some "me" time. Offer to watch him during other times, like when she's making dinner or trying to watch her favorite show. You might want to try giving your brother little tasks that are "a big help" to you. It will keep him busy and out of your hair, and he'll look up to you because you need HIS help. "Hey kiddo, I REALLY need someone to draw a picture of blah blah blah for my science class. Do you know anyone who could do that?"
2006-10-15 07:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your shoes 10 yrs. ago. I have a sister who is 9 yrs. younger than me and did the same thing. The reason why he does it is b/c he wants your attention.
I would talk to your mom (if you have a good relationship w/ her) and explain your situation and how it makes you feel. I know that I wasn't able to do this though b/c of my relationship w/ my mom. If you can't do that then you have to act like the adult and put him in his place. Explain to him that you love him, but you need your privacy. Play a game w/ him and then tell him it's your turn to be alone. Tell him to go to your mom.
I know that you feel like his mother and you shouldn't have to. When he asks you for a drink or food tell him that he needs to go ask his mother. That is what she is there for. The more you loose your cool the more he's going to bug you, so try to stay calm.
I really do feel for you b/c I was in this same situation. You are your mother's child not a babysitter or your brother's mother. She had him and she needs to start to notice that this is ruining your life. You are not responsible for your brother!
2006-10-15 16:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ron's wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure and looking for attention. children often annoy ppl, especially their siblings to get attention. So grit your teeth and do this:
Take some time off and spend it just with him. Take him to the zoo, or to the ice cream parlour, etc. Something where u 2 can talk. Talk to him about school, what toys he likes, what cartoon he likes etc.
My cousin (when he was 6-8 years old) used to annoy the hell outta me and specifically follow me around just to do that. Then i realized everyone ignores him and i know he looks up to me and stuff. So i took him out somewhere, talked to him about Tamia cars and power rangers (his favourite stuff) and praised him alot for his good qualities. And amazingly he stopped annoying me and started respecting me.
This will work trust me. It might take sometime but give it a week.
2006-10-14 17:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 17 and you haven't got a clue yet.
He wants attention, and everyone is ignoring him.
Be the hero, and play with him, tell him, "I really want to have some free time by myself, so if I play with you for an hour, will you leave me alone for an hour?" He will love you for it, and at 8 knows how to leave you alone for an hour. Make sure you play with him first though and with the understanding that he must live up to his end of the bargain or we won't be doing this anymore.
2006-10-15 02:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him.
Yeah, it's hard, it sucks, it's annoying, but do it.
Also, if he's reading your IM's, start making ones to yourself on AIM or YAHOO messenger that are about him, talk about how much you love spending time with him and how he loves you so much because he is always sitting by you while you are on the computer and he is always playing house with you trying to get you to cook for him and play games with him, etc. Make him feel really embarrassed and he'll stop.
Remind your mom that he is her child not your's and that it is a complete invasion of privacy for him to be over there reading your information out loud. If she doesn't like that, then start talking about stuff that she will have to explain to him, like sex, periods, etc and tell him to "ask mom" and when she has to explain things to him she'll tell him to quit reading his sisters stuff.
I know it can be hard, but, you'll be 18 in a year and you won't have to answer to his commands or deal with her stuff anymore.
2006-10-14 16:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kristen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no right to discipline your brother at al. I suggest closing up the lap top and not going online until your mother has better control of your brother.
2006-10-14 19:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be mean back.. they eventually leave you alone. Do what he does to you... mock him and annoy the hell out of him back.. and tell your mom what he;s doing...
2006-10-16 02:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by megan_wooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the parent, or the one who disciplines. Your mom should be doing that and she obviosly is not. So simply ignore him and when he runs to your mom tell her you are not his parent. Let her deal with it. Make her deal with it.
2006-10-14 16:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by tbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋