Should I tell my father?

Question

My step father sexually abused me 13 yrs ago. Should I tell my biological father about this, or let it go? (my mother already knew about this and stayed with him.)

Answer 1

I think you should sit down and explain it too him. He has the right to know what is in your heart and mind. It can also work as an relief to know that you finally told him something that has been eating you for so many years. I will pray for you and your family.

Answer 2

YES....tell your Dad. He does have the right to know. I do not understand how your mother could even think about staying with him. She needs help....badly..I am not saying that being a smart-butt. I really mean it.. You also really need to talk with someone that has experience in these matters. My step brother sexually did things to me when I was 9-11. I never told until just a couple of years ago. I held it inside for 35 yrs. My mother almost died when I told her. She is not married to my step father now. She could not understand why I had not told her when it was going on. Simple......I was scared. Don't do what I did. Get it out in the open now. Depending your age, you also might want to consider talking to a lawyer.....Best of luck to you...........

Answer 3

Sweetheart I am sorry for what I am about to say but your mom is a fuc#@&!$% whore...what kind of mother is she? choosing this bastard over you...I am a mother of 3 and 2 of these 3 are girls and I tell you this the day that any son of a bit@#& touch any of then I will personally Kill him and then call the cops and confess to what I did and why I did it.I really hope from the bottom of my heart that you are getting some kind of counseling for this, what happened to you was a terrible thing but just remember it was not your fault....he was the adult not you.
now in answer to your Q if you and your father get along then he has the right to know what happened to you and I think you should tell him.

Answer 4

You should. That's definitely something that you should tell your biological father about. Especially since it's been on your mind. If it wasn't on your mind, you wouldn't be on here asking this. Plus, your stepfather should be arrested for doing that to you. Your mom should have someone talk to her about why she stayed with him, meaning your stepfather, even when she knew that you were sexually abused by him. That's not right, and it should be addressed. Let your biological dad know as soon as possible.

Answer 5

You should understand that if you tell, your biological father might contact the police, and will certainly pressure you to do so. Be prepared for what will follow. Are you ready to see you stepfather arrested? Are you ready to testify against him? What will your mother do then? Is this man likely to abuse or to have abused others? Do you want to see him punished? You ought to think carefully through these questions.

Answer 6

your mother had her own reason or reasons for saying nothing.
whether you pity her or resent her, one day you are going to have to decide to forgive her for her weakness.
One thing absent from your question is the whereabouts of the step-father. I mention that because one way of dealing with the issue could be for you to confront him yourself.
As far as telling your biological father, you need to ask yourself how he will react. Let's face it, if he goes and shoots the guy then goes to jail what have you gained?

Answer 7

Well, no offense but yo mama iz STUPID for stayin wit dat molester. He should be in jail rite now. Plus, you are old enough to have a voice. You should tell your bio-father about this. I'm real serious about this......this man should be encarcerated rite now, and your mom should separte from him. How can your mom live wit him, knowing dat her husband has/had sexual relations with a male(and her son at that!!!)? Anywayz, my opinion is dat u should tell your bio-father. But its your decision.

Answer 8

erm it's a tough question, if it was me i would let go of e matter as it happens so long ago, because if i were to bring up e matter it would hurt ppl around u like your dad. So u might wanna think over. Hey Cheer Up live your life to e best = )

Answer 9

YES you should tell him. No offense, but your mother should know better than staying with a pedophile, even though she knew that you would be in danger. If I were you, I would definitley tell him!

Answer 10

You definately shouldn't keep this inside. Your mother isn't right in her mind. You need to tell somebody hun. If you and your biological father are close and you can talk with him and if would make you feel better then please do so....just please know that you are worthy of a happy life and that it wasn't your fault.