I was at the supermarket and this lady was p ulling at her kid by some harness like it was some dog. She would yank the leash and yell at him. Why are people like that?
2006-10-14 16:35:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You can buy those leashes for kids. I would never put one on my child ever. That is why I have a dog. But to each his own i guess.
2006-10-14 17:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
THe harness is not a leash and is no different than using the wrist strap (that connect the adult to the child).This harness is meant to give the child a limited amount of freedom and mobility with the added security of knowing the child cannot wander off.Why is it that seemingly intelligent people overlook the fact that it is for the safety of the child not a method of degrading the child.These harness systems were also used to tie the child into the stroller so they couldn't fall out.Young children can wander off very quickly and who would want to live that nightmare.
2006-10-16 16:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age I believe it is a good idea.
I was at the mall with my two nieces and a nephew. I was pushing a stroller and the other two were walking next to me.
A man kept turning into places we did. Finally I thought I would test him and went into a store. Sure enough there he was so I turned to confront him. He started to say something and turned and almost ran out of the store.
We all got home safely and I turned on the TV and a news brief came on as to how a child was abducted at the mall that I had just left.
They closed down the mall locking all the doors.
The two year old who was abducted was found with a couple and the child was now dress as a girl and the boy also had a wig on.
He stood out when he started crying for his mom.
After that time I saw a few parents with a leash attach to their kids arms. I thought it was a good idea and if I ever have a few kids and have to go shopping with little ones I would probably use one also.
As to why that mom was pulling on the leash maybe that kid has a tendency to take off on her.
In the long run it is better for the kid to be pulled back by his mom than pulled away from her by a stranger.
2006-10-14 16:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by noice 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
leashes are used for safety. It stops a child from running off and in this time when people kidnap children from shopping centres they are an extra precaution. I have read your other question and I'm guessing you don't have kids. You are very prejudice against them. When you have kids you will realise everyone has bad days. I agree yanking the leash is not on but maybe he deserved to be yelled at. Are you one of those people who also get mad when people don't tell their kids off for being naughty? Find some tolerance for others or just stop going to shopping centres in the day. Less kids at night
2006-10-14 20:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of two, I can understand there may be a time when a tether to keep a young and fearless child attached to the Mom may be necessary. Yanking and yelling are never useful. Bullying is not a parenting skill. It's a lack of skill.
The reason she was like that is she doesn't know a better way to behave. She as probably
dragged around and coerced by her parents.
Personally, my girls came everywhere and I would not have used a harness. I didn't let them out of my sight until I knew they had the skills they need to do what ever they were wanting to do.
2006-10-14 16:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fortunately, I have not had to resort to doing that with my daughter. My younger brother was a different story. Visitation with his psycho father made him all kinds of messed up, and he was a total nightmare whenever we had to take him into public. Even a therapist didnt know what to do to help him. On a couple family outings, my mother was forced to put a leash on him (at an age where he was too young to remember) because he would try to run off, or act violent to strangers. I dont plan on taking any major trips while my daugther is this young, but if I did have to for some reason, I wouldnt have a problem putting a harness on her. She gets frustrated if she is confined to a stroller for too long, but is too young to know to stay close to mommy and daddy. In crowded areas that we are unfamilair with, I would rather risk getting dirty looks than risk my child getting kidnapped or pulling away from me and running into traffic.
2006-10-16 12:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm all for the leash, but yanking a kid by it is just wrong. Unless the kid is running at the street or something I wouldn't use it like that. My sister used to run away constantly, and it made me stressed out as a kid, now that I'm a nanny I use one if the child tends to be a runner. I'd rather a kid be able to walk around so we can all enjoy what we're doing, than worry constantly about where he/she is.
2006-10-14 16:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It become a humorous tale. additionally, you need to evaluate that some young ones are a threat to themselves. i do no longer use leashes or harnesses on my young ones, yet I genuinely have labored with young ones interior the previous that had disabilities and could actually take off working into site visitors and each little thing else whilst they have been given dissatisfied. it is not a remember of being too lazy to instruct young ones to act. some young ones can no longer behave the way we'd assume them to. And it is not a remember of being too lazy to computer screen them. once you're working with a toddler like that, you need to take each precaution had to confirm they are no longer getting killed. If that youngster did run out into the line interior the 0.5 a 2d it takes for them to get removed from you and that they have got been given killed, anybody could be crying that no person took the secure practices measures had to guard them. you may no longer have it the two procedures. ideas your company. you haven't any longer any thought why yet another parent does the failings they do.
2016-10-19 10:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the leash is a good investment I think, my sister was on the leash when she was younger because she loved to wander away from us. When using it you have to have patience though, people who have no patience and are dragging their kid along with a leash are just trying to get in and out of where ever they are and not have to worry about where their child is.
2006-10-14 16:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had three children and a looser husband and well I had to put a leash on my younger ones when we went out. My oldest was four, my middle son was 2yrs and the baby was 8 months, I had to put a leash on the middle sons wrist so he wouldn't wander off with nice strangers and the baby had to be harnessed and strapped into a stroller because she was a Houdini baby and could get out of anything you strapped her into. I love my children and I didn't care what others thought didn't want to loose them. We were in the Mall in Massachusetts, and while my husband had the stroller and my baby I had the toddlers with me ....she got out of her stroller and crawled away!! I was so scared we had to have the whole mall closed no one could come in and no one could leave. We found her with a blond woman, my daughter was blond she could have very easily kept her but I had pictures in my purse to prove she was mine. It was horrifying to go through. Please if you see parents being abusive say something but don't judge them as bad because of the harness, they love their child and don't want to loose them.
~A loving Mom of three wonderful adult children~
2006-10-15 13:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋