I am New to Buddhism and buddhist meditation. Why do I get irritated inside with others that speak so unkind, rude, disrespectful, uncompassionate with one another? I left a very judgemental type religion to seek true inner peace for myself. My attitudes have changed quite a bit, but I find myself slightly irritated with others like I descirbed, even not wanting to be with them;unfortunately some of these people are my immediate family which I do love.
2006-10-14 16:31:24 · 24 answers · asked by Thomas 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it s a fact that we get irritated when we r under stress. when u get irritated , meditate on it don t fight, just look at what is happening..look,watch nd soon u ll see a change..slowly nd slowly u become seperate from it that it cannot affect u nd u become so detached from it nd so aloof nd so cool nd so far away nd it does nt seem to matter at all...to be a budha means to b in a state of awareness.. when get irritated try to understand,not to control,become a witness nd in witnessing the frustration melts as if the sun has risen nd the snow has started melting.. good luck.....
2006-10-14 17:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by psth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we fund a will against ugliness, we develop an aversion for it. We see it for the toxic sludge that it is and we don't want to be around it. Surely no one wants to live with that which we have worked so hard to get rid of in our lives and our own selves?
I am not a buddhist myself - I try to use intention and visualization to change my surroundings without intruding upon the beliefs of others. I mean if everything is but a reflection of our own inner selves, then I must only change my own mind to affect a change in my surroundings.
I would recommend taking 3-5 mins each day and visualize folks in general or even specific people that are bothering you - see them happy and at peace, free of the negative things that bother you (and I never end a session without seeing myself happy and calm and peacefully surrounded by folks I love). I have found success with this in a very short time with dilligent practice.
Peace!
2006-10-15 00:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just may have a kind heart and a compassionate conscious. But many of us deal with this problem. I will admit that I am no angel myself but a great portion of my actions to another demonstrates respect and kindness...even to my enemies (until provoked). Its natural for you to feel that way.
Being that they're your fam, maybe you could tell them how you feel if they're the type that can tolerate and respect confrontation. Otherwise, if its really bothering you, maybe you should limit your time with your family and find another, more positive environment.
2006-10-14 23:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by wearyblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy, you're human.
Being a Buddhist doesn't turn you into a machine. You still have emotions. You still have pride. You can still be hurt. The difference is that you're trying to take step to control your reactions to them.
It's really sad when you're own family can't accept you for who you are, but then prejudice comes in all shapes and sizes.
Keep at it, I hope you find the peace you're looking for- best wishes.
2006-10-14 23:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although l really don't know that much about your religion, however, I can agree with you 100% with the irritation of the ones around you,especially your loved ones. My religious beliefs have sort of cut me away from my family. My wife and l love our family even with the scrutiny we receive from them. The easiest way to keep the peace here is to profess your beliefs and back them up one time and let the truth explain itself.
2006-10-14 23:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are taught peace and compassion. They have yet to find it. However, your compassion isn't whole-encompassing. You must find compassion in the fact that your family is ignorant. Lead by example, when they start to say things that bother/irritate you, smoothly change the subject. By showing your irritiability, its only goading them on more thinking they have to win a righteous battle. Be peaceful, be One, and above all, Forgive.
2006-10-14 23:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ancient Forever Lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We want to live our lives in the way that makes us happiest, which (assuming it doesn't involve hurting others) we should absolutely do. Others should be allowed the same. And it's painful when those we love do not allow us to live our lives the way that's the most enjoyable for us. This is how I see it, anyway.
Hope your family will soon be able to see that you're happiest in the path you've chosen. Good luck, and Namaste. :)
2006-10-14 23:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is human nature to be offended by things that are outside our sphere of control and we just have to learn to deal with the fact that people will be regardless of what we would like them to be. You can only do what is right for you and not focus on others opinions....even family
2006-10-14 23:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by mortgagegirl101 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can inner peace change human nature? Has anyone truly mastered inner peace? Just wondering really.
2006-10-14 23:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being new, I would assume it's because you are ON the path to enlightenment....give yourself a break, take a breath and think of the smiling Buddha I so dearly love.
Your atheist friend, J
2006-10-14 23:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by Medusa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋