My 8 year old daughter has got her three friends over. Earlier I gave them all one candy and said that was it. (because obvious they will go crazy if more sugar) I came upstairs and left them to play. They climbed up on the counter and took the candy down and ate it all. Then they took macaroni and threw it at the ceiling to make it stick. Well......I made them all clean my daughters room (my daughter too) and then sent them over to my neighbours house. I then felt bad because they were just having such a good time...and kids don't think about how dumb that kind of stuff is. So I let my daughter go to my neighbours house with them, but told her no sleep over. (lol get them hopped up and send them to the neighbours...oh well) Any suggestions on how to handle that situation next time they are treating my house like garbage?
2006-10-14 16:19:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Are your kidding, spank her bottom red!!
She directly defied you. And her friends, would have gone home if they pulled that crap in my home. This is a total lack of respect. I think you did good by making them clean it up, but you left out the punishment for the crime. The only way i wouldn't spank my daughter in this case is when her friends took the candy, she had come to tell me right away. If she participated in any way shape or form her bottom would be glowing for a while.
2006-10-14 22:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 8 they are old enough to know not to do this. I would have told them I was so disappointed in them (kids hate this more than yelling) then made them all clean it up , I would take my daughters pocket money to replace the stolen lollies as she should have known better than to let them do this then sent the kids home and told my daughter no friends over for a month. There would be no special treats, I would not have let her just go off to play at another persons house. Where was the punishment for the theft. That's what it was when they stole the lollies. You cannot punish the other girls but you can yours
2006-10-15 03:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughters friends need to have respect for you and your home, if they don't they shouldn't be allowed over. My son is also 8 and I know and you know that they know when they are doing something wrong. Trashing your house and disobeying you is not fun.
You did the right thing by making them clean it up and they should!
I would have a talk with the girls and tell them that if they pull that again they will not be allowed to play at your house. And stick to it. If they disobey you or trash your house again call their parents and tell them to pick them up. As for your daughter... she knows the rules of the house and is expected to follow them. I would ground her for a few days. Take away something she can't live without for a day or 2. I have had to do that and it breaks my heart to see my son upset w/ me, but I am his mother and not a door mat. The more they get away w/ now the more trouble it will cause in the future. Let her know that you are in charge. Fun or no fun. If it is inappropriate "fun" it should be dealt with and ended immediatly.
I wouldn't have let her go to the neighbors house b/c that is condoning their behavior. But I am happy to hear that you told her no sleep over.
Being a mom is hard work. You want the best for your children and don't want them to get upset, but I have learned that being firm and sticking your ground is the best lesson you can teach your children. If you don't, when they are older they will walk all over you and have no respect.
2006-10-15 23:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ron's wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eight year olds should not be doing this. And I don't think it is just kids being kids. Mine would have cleaned up the mess AND gotten a spanking. On the friends I would have called up the parents and told them what happened and what you were doing about it and let them deal with their kids. If they wanted them to help your daughter clean it up that would have been fine. They could stick around and help her after she got her well-deserved paddling.
I am not sure whether the no sleep over was part of the punishment for this. If so-- that I would not have done--she could have still slept over. I consider the spanking and cleaning to have been enough punishment--lesson learned--lets go on and have fun now.
I don't know how you feel about spanking (and in this case there would have been no doubt in my mind)--but these are some of my general thoughts on the controversial subject:http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-GgIFACYzfqWx8YwvtspSWVmWzA--?cq=1&p=793
2006-10-15 06:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my sweet pea, You have to instill discipline! Your children have to know what respect is. Start taking things away. If you set down the rules, and they disobey, take something from them. Not just something mundane, but something they really like. When they start acting like they should, give it back, with a price. Let them know there are consequences for their actions. Trust me it works. Misbehave, I get something that means so much to you. When they know how to act better, you get that item back. It just seems, parents today are afraid, of what I ask you. Children want to be kept in line. What a hard job this is. I know, I have 3 grown children. Good luck to you. Oh, and by the way, if you have feelings like you hate this job, you are soooooo normal. You will get through this, I promise you, but it will be so much easier if you let your children know who is boss.
2006-10-14 23:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were not being too harsh, ya did a good job. Kids are going to do dumb stuff all the time that's howthey learn. Better star at 8 so when they're 15 they know better.
2006-10-15 08:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sons friend came here today and he was drunk when he got here. He threw up in the garage and I made him go downstairs, get the wet vac, vacuum it up, get the hose and clean the wet vac, gave him a bucket and made him wash the garage floor. He's 21. You did the right thing. The macaroni thing is pretty funny though.
2006-10-14 23:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by goldielocks123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having them to clean up the mess is good and I would have explained to them they shouldn't do it in words they could understand. Then if they did it again I would put them each in separate corners for about 5 minutes or more and when there done explain to them why they were put into "time-out".
2006-10-14 23:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being too harsh. You should just calm yourself down and no more candy. Give them a hair treatment or face treatment for some fun activities. Don't stress out. They just want something to do.
2006-10-15 14:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by i've got the answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that at 8 yrs old she should know right from wrong. I would have made her clean it up and sent her friends home for the night.
2006-10-14 23:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by atc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋