well he somehow thought i said go. but i didnt and i got three other kids here with me how can i get him to come back. do u think he loves me or made an excuse to leave me he does it nearly every six mths.
2006-10-14 15:56:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
How difficult it must be for you at this time. I think he wanted to leave, why would he give up so easy, especially if you are pregnant and he knows it is your hormones talking. Afterall he has been through this 3 times before. Secondly, if this happens every six months that is not healthy for you and your kids. You need to move on and focus on yourself and your kids. You will survive without him.
2006-10-14 16:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your marriage has bigger problems than just getting him to come back this time.
If you really want to make your marriage work and you think there's a possibility your husband does as well, try to get some counseling. Many churches and other public organizations provide free or sliding scale fees. Also take a look at attending a marriage encounter -- the website is wwme.org. They also have a more intense version of marriage encounter designed for marriages in deep trouble.
Right now, try to think about what's best for your children first. If you predict a future of fighting and continual walkouts, this will cause undue trauma for your children and it's best to end it.
If you think there's a chance of salvaging the marriage, you will both have to invest a lot of time and effort, but it is always worth it. Divorce is the biggest fear for most children. Good luck!
2006-10-14 23:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by I'm_Bored 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should've second-guessed sleeping with him and having another child with him if he likes to be an ass and leave every 6 months.
My dad did the same thing practically and one day he left for good.
God knows.. he could be sleeping around during the splits and convincing himself it's okay since you guys are split for the time being.
He doesn't sound like he's worth it if he keeps leaving like that. I mean, we can't really help much without knowing the entire situation or what is said and what is done and what happened before he left, etc., etc. Maybe seek some advice from friends who know you and him personally? Or get councilling.
Regardless of whether he leaves or not, he still has to pay child support and (if he's a good man) he'll be there for his kids. So don't hold onto him JUST for those reasons. Hold onto him ONLY if you think he's worth it for you and still is in love with you and treats you with respect and proves that to you. Don't run after him only if you are afraid you couldn't make it on your own.
2006-10-14 23:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if a man leaves a pregnant woman then he really doesn't love you. I'm sorry if that seems harsh & I know how you are feeling. My first husband left me when I was 5 months pregnant. He BEGGED me to get pregnant because he wanted a baby. We had been married almost 2 years. Well, when I was 5 months pregnant he left me to move in with his girlfriend. I was devastated!! But after she was born in July our divorce was final in September. He's been married NUMEROUS times since then & I've been married to the same great guy for almost 24 years now! Hang in there!!!!
2006-10-14 23:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean you somehow said go? Either you said it or you didnt.
Stop making excuses, I may be wrong but are constantly telling him how you feel, what you need, etc.
remember he had needs too. he needs to feel loved, taking care of and special.
if he is leaving you every six months......get the hint theres someone else.
if you want to know for sure get a friend to follow him, or if you can afford it, hire a investigator.
2006-10-15 00:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by sue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he leave almost every 6 months and where does he go? I'm sorry but I just couldn't handle that.I'm sorry your husband isn't the man he's supposed to be.You can't make him come back and if you did I wouldn't be surprised if he left again.All you can do is be a good mom to those 3 and take care of yourself and your future little one. Good luck.
2006-10-14 23:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by misty g 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. Although I left him before I found out that I was pregnant with our second child, we have found a way to make things work for us. I understand the stress you are going through as well as your husband. I think that if you both want to try to make it work, you will. Let him know how you feel, and listen to how he feels as well. In the end, it will work out, even if it was not meant to be for you two together. Good Luck with your life and children.
2006-10-14 23:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is probably stressed at the thought of another child coming. I'm 25wks and I'm scared I only have 1 at hm. But you know men deal with things different than us woman. So, get your man girl for your children sake. He should know by now that we say things we don't mean when were pregnant. good luck!
2006-10-14 23:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by finelyrics2 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why take him back...he keeps leaving anyway. You and your children need a man in your lives with more stability. If he comes back again he'll just leave again...why put yourself through all of that crap. Let him deal with his own issues, and take care of yourself and your children.
2006-10-14 23:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he does it nearly every six months?!?! geeze louise! sounds to me like he is trying to escape.
2006-10-14 23:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋