he was my b.f. and he broke up with me and i had strong feelings for him.and now everytime i see him it hurts obiously but i need help in how to get him out of my head!
2006-10-14 15:52:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you two don't have any closure. If you're still talking, get together and share your feelings about why you broke up, and what you see in each other's future. You're doing this for closure, not to find a way to get back together. Make sure he understands that.
2006-10-14 15:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and make amends because he obviously caught you off guard with the break up. Try not to appear too deperate just be civilized and firm. Tell him that you respect his decision and that you hold no resentment towards him. Then put that behind you and more on because it makes no sense dwelling on what was or what could've been because there are plenty more fish in the sea and u'd be surprised to know that as much as u miss him and would love to get back together with him, it would only cause u double heartache because there's every possibilty that he may dump u again so to avoid that just let it go. Spend time with friends, family, your pets (if you have any) and try to enjoy life more, be thankful for each waking day and what it has to offer and every time you find yourself thinking about him, just remember it's his loss and your'e better off with out him anyways. Think too that he's moved on with his life so why should'nt you. Be positive, act positve and you'd be surprised how quickly he fades out of your memory.
2006-10-14 23:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let go, even if it's not easy. When you make choices in everyday life issues you have to weigh the pros and cons, right? So why not say, "self, that's it, I am done with this past. In the meantime, you are not preparing yourself for the next one that will come along. You need to get ready because **** happens, then we die. So, stop wasting time on your past and hold your head up and look to the future. Buy yourself a Belly Dancing workout video and get finer, and then the next time he sees you he will be like, "Damn, what was I thinking?" Don't be so obvious that you are hurting when you see him either. Chin up.
2006-10-14 23:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make yourself so busy that you don't have time to think of him. Think of all the things that you are interested in- all the untapped talents you posess. Now is the time to eplore those interests and talents.
Maybe you could do volunteer work. Helping people with serious problems might help you put this into persecvtive.
2006-10-14 22:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will help. I still like this guy i was in love with once, now i try to avoid places where he might be just to make it a little easier. I will always feel for him because letting go is the hardest thing to do. Make sure you do whats best for you. Good luck.
2006-10-14 22:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do is move on! There are plenty more fish in the sea. Oh, and e ff you are that same person who was advertising that "Love is the Answer to Everything" crap and you still are, and you're answers don't help! You need to get a life!
2006-10-14 22:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Love Love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi well honey if you have that strong of feelings for him, it really is hard to get someone out of your head, we are only human, we can't just shut our feelings off like a light switch..
Maybe you could try distance yourself from him and it will get better with time
2006-10-14 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by shero67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time really is the healing thing. It's those things that come and go from our lives after a painful or sudden heartbreak that help us to heal. New experiences. Knowing that the person you love or loved doesnt want to make to things work...well, that just makes it clear that its a waste of love when you could give it to someone who really would try and make thiings work. ;)
2006-10-14 22:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think to yourself that he is laughing at you for feeling so bad. This is what he wants and you are playing right into his hand. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you are feeling this way. You deserve better than that. Find someone who truly cares about you and flush this loser out of your head!
2006-10-14 22:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have other activities of your own..go out, go to the movies, be more active....The more things you will do, the less time you will h ave to think about him.......and Try to meet other guys...that will help....But the best advice would be to wait..time heals...give yourself sometime and put in your head that you deserve the best of the best...Obviously your ex, wasn't one.
2006-10-14 22:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋