I started talking to this guy in august and everything was going good, but after something happened things got bad and he said that we were going too fast and i tried to slow down and he suggested that we start over but when we saw each other the other day i thought we had but we didn't. Although he's hurt me, I still really have feelings for him. I don't know if i should wait and see if were going to start over or just move on.
2006-10-14 15:28:35 · 13 answers · asked by ™ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
* edit. I want to move on b/c I think that he's just going to do the same thing over again but my heart is telling me to give him another chance. I'm struggling with how to deal with this b/c i've never like someone so much before and i feel like he's a really special person. But then again he did hurt me, turning me down time after time when i was asking him out and then saying i was moving too fast for him and we should slow down and i thought i was but i guess it wasn't enough for him.
2006-10-14 15:44:04 · update #1
I am kinda in the same situation, but mine is just a little more complicated then yours. Take my advice and move on. What I am trying to do is move on and if he comes back "ok", and if not "ok". I am learning that when a women is in love we kinda put our lives on hold, but men don't. If your guy tells you he is going to call you at 9pm you will stop everything you are doing around 8:45. If your friends say lets hang out you say no, if your friends call you may not even pick up because you don't want to be on the phone when he calls. The thing is there are two problems that come along with that #1 He has not asked you to do any of that what you are doing, and when he does not do the same for you, you get mad, but you have to remember he did not ask you to stay home and not go out with your friends just because he was going to call. Also if he does not call at 9pm then you are mad because you waited for him, but he was inconsiderate. The thing is yeah he told you he was going to call but he did not know you are actually waiting by the phone at 8:59. #2 No matter how much he love you he is not going to display that same behavior towards you because men don't think like that. Men only think in the physical. So the physical act is to call you which he does but there are no emotions in that to the point where he is actually going to say I know she is sitting by the phone waiting for me and I want to show I care so let me call now they don't think like that.
I say move on just because you need to. The way you get a man to come back to you is to make sure your life is fine with or with out him. Make plans with your friends the same day you make plans with him just so later you can cancel with him. If you are there for him every single time you will never give him a chance to miss you or see how much he really needs you. So move on for your on peace of mind and when or if he comes back then you set some ground rules so this wont happen again, and if he does not come back you will be over the initial hurt, and it will be easier to move on. Allow yourself to think that it is over right now and go ahead and deal with those emotions. Like right now if things were to work out with my boyfriend I would still tell him, you need to let me know now where this is going because I had already started to let you go. I bet then you will get your answer. Good luck.
2006-10-14 15:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say move on, nothing is really worth a second try by guys. Dont waste your time, there is the time in between where you can try to find another guy. Get him jelous then he wil realize how much he likes you and really wants to start over.
2006-10-14 22:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how many times are you going to start over before realizing that it just may not work out? If he's hurt and you really don't see anything good coming out of it, move on.
2006-10-14 22:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by qtee425 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didnt mention how he hurt you but if someone is calling the cards then play the cards the way it is called. I know that sounds vague but let him be and if he really truly enjoys your company then he will either tell you or not and if not move on.
2006-10-14 22:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-10-14 22:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by â?¥ Pawya! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on- life is too short to wait until he makes up his mind.
2006-10-14 22:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it and move on
2006-10-14 22:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait as patience is a virtue.
2006-10-14 22:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are that confused about the relationship........ i think its best to just move on from it. Good luck to you, take care
2006-10-14 22:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON he aint worth your time
2006-10-14 22:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by Britt_09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋