but we get along great but he has 4 kids by someone else .
2006-10-14 15:25:50 · 12 answers · asked by anderson_nakeisha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
With him paying child support for FOUR KIDS all the advice I can give you is this: Let it go, girl. Just let it go!
2006-10-14 20:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Monique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change what's already happened. But, you control the future for you are your baby. I left while pregnant and then met the love of my life - he adopted my first and we had two more.
Follow your heart and you're making the right decision for your baby too. Children want happy parents - not unhappy parents that stay together. I always wished my parents would divorce and they should have. They still should. It really messed me up to be brought up in an unhappy environment.
2006-10-14 18:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for you and your child. Chances are if you do not want to be with him anymore than you fight alot, which is very upsetting for the wee one to go through. If you think you can work it out then try. If its beyond that than do your best to let the wee one know they are not at fault and move on from dad. It would be better in the long run too if you are fighting alot. At that age they tend to think everything is thier fault, even when we know it is not.
2006-10-14 16:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be in love with someone, but, don't want to be with him? You're not in love with him, you love and care about him... when you're in love with someone,honey, you want to be with them...it's great that you two get a long greatly, but, four children by someone else... do you really want that drama in your life... let a lone your child's life?
2006-10-14 15:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by A Lady @ ALL Times 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey his first name isn't john is it. i use to have the same problem with my four year olds father. i was still in love with him up until a year ago. and then i got married to my husband now and we have a son together and john is not in the picture at all. so just let the time past. you will eventualy get over him.
2006-10-14 16:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is heartbreaking to read about all the lousy jobs you young people are doing with your kids - kids need a mommy around all the time, kids need a daddy around who loves mommy. what is going on?
why did you even make a baby with a man who has four other children with someone else?
why do you and your friends have no respect for the needs of children? do you come from parents who had no respect for your needs?
what an utterly sad and miserable world you've created for your kids. ugh. please stop it - you guys are ruining our country and your children's lives.
2006-10-14 16:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I would say that sounds like a personal problem...Don't be with him then, besides he has 4 kids with another person, I bet he is pretty busy...
2006-10-14 16:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Not the one for you! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard place to be..i love my ex to but not like a lover..i feel we would have been good friends..and have actually became good friends..but i am glad i am with my husband..
Maybe your having mixed feelings because sometimes its hard to let go and be alone especially if you have been with him a big amount of years..maybe you just don't want to be alone..
2006-10-14 15:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be reasons for why dont want to be with him so you should just follow your heart.
2006-10-14 16:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by mizz_burque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how can he handle all that child support!
2006-10-14 15:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋