at thte time i did it for this other guy cuz i really liked him and he told me he liked me and wanted to go out and it wasnt fair to my bf so i broke up with him after 5 months. anyways then this other guy gets really mad at me for breaking up with my (ex) bf and will barley talk to me now.. now i feel like i have lost them both and cant get over my bf who said he was NEVER going to be able to get over me either but now is perfectly happy with all these otehr girls..and is rubbing it all in my face.. this is soo hard. what should i do!?
2006-10-14 14:59:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Learn from your mistake. this guy other guy really didn't want you in the first place. You were a challenge and he won.
2006-10-14 15:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard because it doesn't matter whether you were the one dumped, or if you dumped him - it still hurts all the same. You're only human, so feeling bad for hurting someone else is only natural. Because you broke up with him at all signifies that your relationship wasn't strong enough to start with. For whatever reason, you were missing something your ex didn't have and so you were searching for it in another man. This tells me that your ex didn't complete you and so the only thing you can do now is move on. You may feel like you need him back, but it'll only be temporary as you're feeling bad. If you did start dating again, there would then be trust issues. He would always feel threatened you would leave him for another guy and act extremely jealous whenever you're around other guys. The very best thing you can do for your ex and for yourself is to let things be and move on. You can always be friends once things have returned to normal again. Hang with your best pals, write in a journal, take up a new hobby - whatever it takes to relieve pain and take your mind off things for a while. I know it feels impossible, but you will be okay...it just takes time. There's a saying that it takes half the time you were dating to get over him when you break up. Lucky for you, it was only 5 months, so you only have about 2 and a half months to go and each day will get easier. Whatever you do, don't start dating right away because you'll only want a replacement for what you miss and that can be dangerous. And stay away from the guy you broke up with your ex for. If he really cared about you, and had any interest in actually dating you, he would have been there in the end. Don't give him any satisfaction. He doesn't exist! Remember that everything happens for a reason. You're true love might be just around the corner, just wait and see. I wish you all the best. Many hugs! I know it's hard.
2006-10-14 22:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't bump into both of them, if u do, u'll spark up ur sadness. Start anew, and trust me, time will slowly changed everything and next time when u look back, u'll feel that it's 'none of my business' anymore as u'll happily be with another man.
2006-10-14 22:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Savor_Savvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get with other guys and join into extra curicular activities like yoga and some other sports if ur that kind of gal. after time ull for get about him and move on with ur life.
2006-10-14 22:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by kellsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ive kinda gt da same problem az i still lyk my ex bf itz lyk he only wanted me 4 1 fing. i dnt no wat 2 say az guys dat u go owt wiv will always b apart of ur life weather they tlk 2 u or nt they wil always b with u no matter wat an i hav 2 say dat it iz hard trying 2 get over them itz being wat 5months since me an my bf broke up an i still havnt gotten over hym so yea im sorri dat i cant say much 2 help u k laters bye bye
2006-10-14 22:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by teddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life.
2006-10-14 22:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by mermer7@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PEOPLE ALWAYS THINK THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHERSIDE....BUT,
ITS NOT. SOMETIMES, THE GRASS IS NOT EVEN GREEN . HAPPINESS IS NOW! NOT IN THE PAST NOR IN THE FUTURE...U LOSE!
SORRY...
2006-10-14 22:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by larry d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay girl! u date me and i garenty ull forget bout him! -icpmegaclown61@yahoo.com so e-mail me some time! im 15/m/ill
2006-10-14 22:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by 96' Subaru Impreza L 2.2l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to start dating again .. and go out with your friends
2006-10-14 22:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by ef f 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.
The biggest “cure all” every time you miss them, or are thinking about them with sadness, is to VIVIDLY remember the times they treated you like DIRT, and ask yourself: “Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?” When the answer is NO – then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.
Every time thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above, AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS. Do that every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.
Really TRUST that everything DOES work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the growth you’ve made, and how the situation worked out for your highest and best after all, this will help you realize that this situation is no different.
View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life!
Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! THIS is the most powerful thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a PAST situation, when you can really be making significant and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives of others!
Every time you start to think about them, and begin to play your drama of the past in your mind, consciously CHOOSE to focus on the NOW, and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and expressing your highest and best self. Remember that you don’t NEED them at all. YOU are the gift. They may be a gift as well, however, if they are out of your life, your life MUST carry on in the most vibrant, positive and life-renewing manner possible. This is ALL within your conscious choice and control.
Really thank them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference they DID make in your life. Realize that THAT was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.
Someone that I personally know that is going through the throws of emotional agony in trying to let go of a relationship that just ended said: "We need to know WHY We SHOULD Let THEM GO TO BEGIN WITH!”
The Answer is so that YOU can be FREE FROM PAIN, and misery! So that you can attract someone into your life that will treat you incredibly well, and because you DESERVE to be happy in a real relationship!
Why should you hold out for crumbs from someone similar to a dog waiting on the doormat for a couple of crumbs of attention? Don’t you really deserve to have a fantastic relationship? YES! You do! Everyone does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner peace, and grow with enough self-love to attract your true counterpart.
You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.
Don’t you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: “Hey, get me out of this, because IT HURTS!” And the only way to remove yourself from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a COMPLETE break.
It’s like keeping your hand halfway in boiling water! If you take your hand out completely, and heal it, then you will be free from pain.
If you choose to keep dipping your fingers into boiling water, this is the same as continuing to return to a painful relationship. One is physical pain, and the other is emotional.
There is no judgment at all. So please do NOT judge yourself for allowing yourself to be treated far less than you deserve. The only thing that matters is what you do from THIS moment forward. Love yourself – a LOT!
The only one you will EVER need is YOU. The only one that will NEVER leave you is YOU. So place ALL of your energy on being and expressing all you came into this life for. It is NOT about them – it is all about you and your growth. That is the most important thing. Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved more as a result of all you have been through. As you come to fully awaken to all of your grand possibilities, you really won’t have the time, or the care to focus your attention on a past situation. It is like focusing on anything else that is in the past. NOW is your time to re-claim yourself, and shine as the beacon that you are. You will feel so much better once you take all of the above steps – as long as you really apply them.
Hope dis will help u............
2006-10-14 22:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋