Ok, this is lame that Im asking this, but i've been pretty confused lately. My last boyfriend and I dated for 2 1/2 years. We lived together for 9 months when we first met, then the entire last part was long distance because of a job. We got less close due to the distance apart and now we are just friends. The thing is that I totally still love him. I have been considering moving across the country to live in the same city as him again. This feels stalkerish, but he lives in Portland, Oregon (which is a fun city where I used to live) and my job ends at Christmas so I have no reason not to move somewhere new. He says that going from friends to a couple again might not work--but I think if we actually hung out in person instead of talking on the phone he would change his mind. Is it dumb to move for a guy who more than likely doesnt want to get back together? Maybe I should just move somewhere new and exciting and meet new people....I really love him a lot though and miss him....
2006-10-14 14:52:44 · 13 answers · asked by jancanyon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm...
Nope.
2006-10-14 15:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to be honest with you - it doesn't sound promising. The relationship wasn't strong enough to survive the geographical distance and he has told you that it might not work which for a man is pretty much telling you that's it.
You need to ask yourself if you are making more of the relationship in your mind than it actually was in reality. It's also possible that as long as you have a fantasy of getting back together with him you don't have to put yourself out there and try for another relationship.
If you enjoyed living in Portland, then by all means go and live there again, but don't do it with the expectation of a happily ever after.
2006-10-14 15:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying it might not work he may be seeing someone new and not want to tell you- or he may be enjoying dating a lot of women. Is there a halfway point? a place where you would be closer but not too close? Whatever happens I am sure it will be for the best. Ask him if he wants to try again before you make a big move on his behalf
Good Luck.
2006-10-14 14:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to pick up and move for someone that you have no promise of a relationship with, although romantic, is not practical... until you establish what it is the both of you want I would either stay where you are or move someplace new and start your life over. I know he may feel like your whole world right now, but the USA is a big place and there's lots of amazing people out there that may be a better match for you.
2006-10-14 15:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Just your average guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not follow the guy around the country that is kinda wierd, and i realize that you still love him but you really dont know what hes doing where he lives you only know what he wants you to know . i think you should really talk to him seriously before making a fool out of yourself, i mean getting over to portland and finding your self , without even a friend there would be kind of wierd and a little strange and what if the boy has a girl that hes not telling you about and anyway you know how guys are.
2006-10-14 15:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows how you feel and does not reciprocate your feelings then forget him. It's time to move on. Go visit him for a weekend. You should be able to access the situation and make a rational decision.
Take advice from someone who knows. You cannot change a person to fit your idea of how they should act. Be careful.
2006-10-14 15:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To many guys out there to worry about an X.See with an X you are in the middle with 4 lines going in other direction that what an X does to you,alway will hurt you.
2006-10-14 14:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you nevertheless have emotions on your ex? in case you dont have emotions, dont problem/experience in charge too lots! he's your ex boyfriend, you're absolute to continually think of a few issues he does are candy. Ive gotta say nevertheless....... in the experience that your boyfriend unearths out i do no longer think of he would be chuffed! perchance it would be ultimate in case you advised him your self, i think of he'd comprehend extra in case you heard it from you and he might additionally be waiting to help if youre puzzled approximately all of it! :) i'm hoping it seems ok!
2016-12-16 07:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by pynes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about it like this, its better being friends than nothing right? I say go for it, who cares you do seem right though. Your job is ending in December, so go for it. Life is about risks right? You love him miss him, DO IT DO IT!!
2006-10-14 14:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a pic with your finger in your backside
2006-10-14 14:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by B B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋