My daughter is 26 months old and I am not sure where to go from here with potty training......?

Question

This is where we're at:
1) She hates wearing diapers or pull ups-sometimes we let her run around for a while with no diaper on, but I don't want any accidents, nor do I want her on the furniture without a diaper on. I tell her when she is a big girl and uses the potty/toilet all the time then she doesn't have to wear a diaper anymore.
2) She does use the toilet or potty every couple of days, but prefers the toilet. She definitely knows what they are for.
3) I let her watch me in the bathroom (I am the Mom).
4)We do reward her for using the potty or toilet (we cheer and hug her and let het flush, and tell her what a good girl she is)
5) She sees the older girls at her day home use the potty and the ladies at the day home ask her if she wants to use the potty and let her sit on it.
6) Any time she says she wants to go pee or potty we take her right away to the bathroom.
Now, what else should we be doing? I feel lost on this subject. How long should this take?

Answer 1

get her some toddler underwear with princesses on them. Tell her that she doesn't want to pee on the princesses so she has to let you know as soon as she feels she has to go. Thats how my neice got trained.

Answer 2

Sounds like you are moving in the right direction :) I have helped potty train lots of little ones, here are a few tips.

1. First it can take a year or more for a child to be fully potty trained.
2. Be patient, accidents happen
3. You could try a sticker chart. Each time she goes, she gets a sticker on her chart. Once she has so many she gets a book, or small toy, or whatever motivates her.
4. Let her pick out her own "big" girl undies.
5. Make sure when she has an accident that you tell her that she is still doing a good job.
6. Ask her every 1/2 hour or so if she needs to go potty.
7. Give her a choice in things. Every morning ask her if she wants to wear a diaper or underwear. If she picks underwear ask her which ones. Toddlers LOVE control :)
8. You can try getting her, her own potty supplies. Kandoo toilet paper, her own soap etc.
9. Make sure you sit with her in the bathroom. Read her a book, tell her a story while she sits there. You want her to think the bathroom is a fun place to be. Not a place where mom sits me down a leaves for a bit.
10. Keep doing what you are doing, it sounds like you are doing a great job! Potty training takes time. My son is 2.5 and one week he is all about the potty, the next he wants nothing to do with it. Don't push them to go. It can make them scared or you will be in a power struggle. Toddlers love control, so let her think she is in control :)

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Sometimes its not about going potty and its about control .. Kids are weird ... Sometimes its about them controling themsleves or their enviornment. Have you gone to target and showed her the cool underware she is going to be able to pick out. let her really look at it .. see it touch it... and make it such a big thing... when the day comes we migh even have a cake. ... But maybe she is just not ready. She is 2 years and 2 months .. I have a daughter that was ready at 1 1/2????? Then my son was ready at 3 1/2 almost 4. DOnt rush it .. because there is somethign that hasnt clicked yet... I have three with me under 4 and one has it like me and you and the other 2 are doing well but still pee inthe pull up.. its an easything for some and others.. it takes a few months longer.. SHe is not going to go to pre k with a pull up on trust me. Its just taking a little longer till 3 even dont worry // If the doctor says all is fine ... just be patient and support her. you have enough guilt raising kids ... why add this to the list. give her some more time.. she will get it .

Answer 4

Most children are just getting started with potty training at 26 months, and some not even yet. You cannot bribe, reward or punish her into controlling her body. Look up readiness for potty training before you start pushing the issue. No matter what you do most children can toilet independently between 3 and 4.

Answer 5

Your daughter is showing every sign of being ready to be toilet trained. Plus she is past the age (24 months) when most girls are ready. You need to buy or borrow from the library the book "Toilet Training in Less than One Day" by Nathan Azris. Read this book, and then schedule one day in which to complete your daughter's toilet training. She will NEVER wear diapers again.

the essence of this book is that you will make it very clear to your little girl that she will always pee and poop into her potty or toilet, and will never wear diapers again. There are very specific procedures in this book for training her, and if you follow them faithfully, she will learn to love her potty, and understand that she is too old for diapers. You and she will be so proud at the end of the day.

Please get this job done. Dont' passively wait on her to finish this process. You are the Mom, and you need to take the initiative to make sure she completes this process now.

Answer 6

I feel for you sister! It sounds like you are on the right path with a little girl who will do it when she wants to.

If she does it sometimes, then she is fully capable of doing it always...she just doesn't want to yet. Some kids have a tough time letting go of the diapers (for reasons only they know). I hope it works out soon.

On a personal note, with my daughter, the thing that worked was our last ditch effort at bribery. We kept a large bag of m & ms in the drawer and she got 3 of them everytime she went in the potty. After that she was in there constantly since we have always really limited her candy intake. I don't think this is an example of very good parenting, but after a week of this we threw out the diapers and weaned her off the "emmies". OK, so she had a few too many candies for one week, but it was the final push she needed.

Answer 7

I am going to answer this question with the response that I got from our pediatrician 20 years ago. Just keep doing what you are doing, don't make it too big a deal. It is not a contest, kids get trained at different ages. (don't let other parents or caregivers give you a hard time) Relax. She will be potty trained when she is ready and as our doc said...."guaranteed by the time she goes to kindergarten, if not by then we will go to plan B." It seemed to work, once I relaxed and gave positive reinforcement - but not like it was the greatest accomplishment of her life..Just sorta "good job!".
As far as not wearing a diaper, just tell her that "Mommy wears her underwear when she sits on the couch, so she needs to too." Add the names of grandma, aunts or friends in there too. (females she is familiar with and wants their approval)

Answer 8

buy her pretty panties make a big deal out of it and let her help you pick them out.

while at home have her wear them and every 1/2 hour ask her if she has to go potty let her use the toilet and track the times she goes and keep that up for a few days

you will see the routine and in no time she will be trained. it takes about a week

Answer 9

My little cousin was around 2 1/2 when her mom taught her to potty train, she is 3 and she uses the toilet very well for her age, Good luck.

Answer 10

I'm not even going to pretend I know anything about how to potty train a baby, but I do know this: Many parents try to potty train their children, and when their children don't do it, they think the child is defiant or stupid, when in reality the child does not posses the muscle strength and control over its body yet to perform such a feat, this goes with teaching them how to walk aswell. Another thing I know is the developing mind, and cheering her on and rewarding her and telling her shes a good girl is very good, it will make her want to do it more and more, keep doing what your doing, i think your doing and exalent job

Answer 11

It will take time, but it seems like you are taking the right steps. You can keep her off of the furniture, but you will have to learn to deal with the accidents on the floor. They're going to happen...just make sure you have some resolve and paper towels on hand. She'll wet her bed too eventually...it's just part of having a kid and you can't get mad at them for it. One thing I didn't see you mention is working on independent skills. Give her clothing to her and let her dress/undress herself...teach her to put her shoes & socks on by herself as well. It will be frustrating for her at first, but she will feel so proud of herself if she's a big girl who doesn't need your help and that confidence will definitely help w/ potty training.