i have this thing called a choroidal nevus in the white part of my right eye, like a freckle (its not malignant so i don't need to seek any medical attention :) ) and it's always been hard to look at people in the eyes during a conversation, especially the opposite sex. I always find myself looking away every so often. Is there any advice you guys could give me to boost my confidence when approaching different people? people usually say that they find eyes to be attractive..and mine just aren't
2006-10-14 14:51:25 · 15 answers · asked by Julio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are who you are and God made you this way. No one is perfect even thought they may look like it, believe me they aren't there is something wrong with all of us. The problem is we don't want to accept ourselves as we are and TV and the movie and music industry doesn't help. We all have something about us that is beautiful an attractive also. So, try to keep yourself focused on what is good and likable about yourself. Have someone that knows you well tell you what they think is good and attractive and likeable about you and keep those things on your mind. Do what most good psychologists tell you to do, write it down 25-50 times a day and then speak it out loud to yourself every day that many times. You will be amazed at how the subconscious will believe what you say and those qualities will begin to be the focus of your thoughts and you will think less and less about your not so perfect whatever you said, see, I forgot already. Good luck and you are beautiful, God doesn't make junk!
2006-10-14 15:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone said you weren't attractive? and your eyes? Is it just being
self-conscious? If someone isn't respectful because of it, they weren't worth the time to start with don't you think? I've talked with blind people, also some without an eye or and eye that just moves on it's own. Think of it as an adventure and let your personality show forth and must won't even notice. BTW, if you knew how many people i know that are missing digits, parts of their hands, etc, some I never knew because I didn't look for their faults. Look at them with your left eye and keep focused on that and be proud.
2006-10-14 15:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by joyfulone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to build confidence within yourself. Most women would rather have a guy with a freckle in his eye that is genuinely sweet and considerate. I bet you have plenty of good qualities within you. When you look into other peoples eyes it shows that you are interested in what that person is saying. Just try this on family members first and then start doing it to strangers eventually you will find it easier and easier to look into someones eyes.
2006-10-14 14:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attractive is in the eye of the beholder. If you would just forget about how you think you look, your confidence will take over and you be able to look everyone in the eye during conversations. What you perceive to be unattractive may be very attractive to someone else.
2006-10-14 14:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of you. Not everyone has this and by having this freckle makes you special. By being special you can accomplish anything. To feel self conscious of part of your body is not being fair to your friends and especially girl friends. Bring it to their attention and say bet you don't have one of these. Don't hide it flaunt it. They will love you for it. Being brave is a most attractive feature.
2006-10-14 14:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We make eye touch whilst speaking, notwithstanding it is not like a staring contest. additionally, as quickly as we are having a greater intimate or extreme verbal substitute, we can't go searching or talk with our palms as lots.
2016-10-19 10:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people do too much self criticizing, a little ol' spot on your eye seems like a mighty small flaw, things could be a lot worse.
2006-10-14 14:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by suzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got to remember that eyes aren't everything. if someone is truly interested, they will look beyong your problem. it may be bothering you more than it bothers others. to tell you the truth, most girls i have dated didn't mention my eye color until a couple weeks after we dated. try to keep some distance from them to begin with if it bothers you. once they know you, it shouldn't matter. if someone is gonna judge you over something like that, you don't need them no ways.
2006-10-14 14:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by vbeaver31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some white out on it =). Looks are not everything
2006-10-14 14:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Donovan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look them in the eye , they will be curious , but it wont last long. Then you can get on with what ever you were doing. ITS NO BIG DEAL.
2006-10-14 14:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋