my has cancer since she was five. Now she 17.sometimes I feel weird around her.and sometimes I afraid she going to die.
2006-10-14 14:34:31 · 15 answers · asked by desperate 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You don't say how old you are, but I'm sure it's been rough on you having a sister who's been sick for 12 years. Cancer is a mean, indiscriminate disease that doesn't really care how old we are or how well we take care of ourselves.
I imagine your sister's illness has taken a toll on everyone in your family. Your parents must be very worried about her. It's possible they spend so much energy on your sister's illness that they don't really have a lot of quality time to spend with you. That's understandable, but it puts an added burden on you. The first thing I'd suggest is that you ask your teacher whether there's a school counselor you might speak with. If they do, see if you can just go in and tell the counselor what you just said here. You can really benefit from having an understanding person to speak with and who listens to you.
Your sister needs your love. I imagine she'd like to talk to you about your lives too.
We all die, sweetheart. Your sister may live longer than you think, or she might very well die of the disease. What kind of memories would you like to have of her if she should die soon? Good ones? I bet you would! Just go in and chat with her if she feels up to it. Tell her about your day. Play a board game or a card game. Read her a book or a short story. Or just watch TV together. Anything you do out of love will make memories for both of you, and will make your lives happier.
Best wishes to you!
2006-10-14 14:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by barbiehow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been where you are now. My brother fought cancer for 6 years while we were growing up. It was weird at times. The best advice I can give you is this: Make memories. Make the most of every single minute you have. That doesn't mean you have to do something amazing always, just make everything meaningful. Make sure you know that you love each other. It's natural to be afraid that she will die. She may. My brother did, and it was the worst day of my life. It's hard, and it still is to this day. However, I have many memories of a life well lived and loved to look back on. When I told my mom about my worry over him dying she reminded me that she would die one day regardless and that any day anyone gets is one to be treasured. Just take each day at a time and you will be able to conquer any obstacle that comes your way or hers.
2006-10-14 14:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry... be proud of how long she's surived this! :) My mom was diagonosed with cancer last year and it was heartbreaking for me. Sometimes i felt funny to be around her or even metion it .. but i got over that. I realized that all of us cannot live forever so we have to make the most out of our time here.
There are many books out there on how to deal with family members whos living with cancer. Go to your local library and check them out. I've read one while i was at the library and it seems to help :) Or maybe try talking to someone close to you ... it feels better to share those feeling with someone who can understand what you're going through.
2006-10-14 14:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Angels Breath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just sit down and talk to her. Be honest with your feelings. She probably has some of the same feelings you do. You would be surprised if you just talk about it. I am all too familiar with cancer in the family. Keep the channels open. No matter what.
2006-10-14 14:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by candace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just know that every day could be one of the last and enjoy it all as much as I can and support her where I can, and always make everything ok before I leave in case something happens to her.
2006-10-14 14:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to be normal around her, and treat her like how you would treat if she didn't have cancer. keep in mind that you want to have as much time with her as possible, and be friends with her. if time is limited, you guys should just try to have some good times together, so at least she will have good memories of you before she goes. after all, at the end of all of our lives, we have nothing more than just memories to take with us.
2006-10-14 14:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by CreativeGEEK 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, what type of cancer?
Just love her and make many memories together take pictures by the millions and pray everyday that God will heal her. Ask him to make ever cell new the way he intended it. Never give up hope...
2006-10-14 14:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go to church with her to learn God's precious Word, and you will have wonderful lives.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicide attempt.)
2006-10-14 16:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get professional help: medical & psichiatrist.
2006-10-14 14:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Gabrio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋